Stress-Producing Obstacles in Relationships

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 30, 2016April 30, 2022 Counselors, Educators, General Interest, Overcoming obstacles, Problem solving, Relationships, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority agendas for others, assumptions, autonomy, being present, being right, blame, change, conflict, consciousness, control, criticism, dependence, double standards, expectations, fear of abandonment, judgment, listening, making others wrong, overreacting, perfectionism, personal growth, reactivity, relationships, respect, shaming 2 Comments

Patterns to avoid Want to reduce conflict, pain, and alienation in relationships with the important people in your life? Here are some of the patterns that make connecting difficult. (Some suggestions for resolution below.) • Needing to be in charge or in control, especially when it depends on disempowering or controlling others, or when it disregards…

Presentation: The Perfection Deception

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 28, 2015May 2, 2022 Counselors, Creativity and independence, Cultural Changes, Educators, General Interest, Gratitude and inspiration, Health and Safety, Overcoming obstacles, Parents, Perfectionism, Presentation, Presentation for educators, Presentation for parents, Presentation- general interest, Relationships, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself abandonment, attachment, authenticity, compensation, culture, emotional safety, health, healthy striving for excellence, image, inner critic, media, mental health, overcommitment, perfectionism, physical health, relationships, self-acceptance, self-care, suicide Leave a comment

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging our relationships, making us sick, and holding our happiness hostage Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Perfectionism may sound like a good thing, but it’s entirely different from the more realistic and achievable healthy pursuit of excellence. Working diligently toward improvement, learning, and growth is also far less destructive (and…

Book: The Perfection Deception

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 27, 2015November 21, 2022 Books, Counselors, Cultural Changes, Educators, General Interest, Gratitude and inspiration, Parenting, Parents, Perfectionism, Relationships, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself attachment, authenticity, bodily harm, body dysmorphia, compensation, culture, eating disorders, emotional safety, health, healthy striving for excellence, image, inner critic, mental, mental health, motivation, overcommitment, perfectionism, physical health, relationships, self-acceptance, self-care, suicide 4 Comments

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging your relationships, making you sick, and holding your happiness hostage. Have you ever: * compared yourself to others and seemed to come up short? * felt like no matter how much you did or how hard you tried, it wasn’t enough? * set unrealistic, even harmful standards for…

Interview Questions: The Perfection Deception

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 7, 2015January 24, 2020 For the Media abandonment, adequacy, all-or-nothing, anxiety, attachment, criticism, culture, defining self, emotional safety, encouragement, failure, fear, healthy pursuit of excellence, identity, learning, making mistakes, media, perfectionism, procrastination, rejection, relationships, self-acceptance, self-worth Leave a comment

Interview Questions for The Perfection Deception by Dr. Jane Bluestein The following questions about The Perfection Deception have been provided to help guide your interview. Please feel free to ask any questions the book or topic inspires. In a live interview, Dr. Bluestein’s responses may not match the answers provided below. 1. At the beginning of…