Motivation vs. Manipulation

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 1, 2016May 1, 2022 Feedback and encouragement, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement, Teaching authority relationships, autonomy, choices, i-messages, manipulation, motivation, obedience vs. cooperation, people pleasing, positive consequences, praise, purpose, recognition, reinforcement 2 Comments

There is a difference You see the kids on task and behaving, and it’s natural to want to reinforce what they’re doing. By the same token, the kids who are dragging their feet or not doing their work (or chores) may need a bit of a fire lit under them. There are positive and effective…

The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 10, 2012May 31, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Teaching, Win-win parenting authority alternative to authoritarian parenting, alternative to permissive parenting, avoiding power struggles, boundaries, dealing with negative behavior, discipline, getting your kids to cooperate, healthy relationships, motivating your kids, recognition, reinforcement, rules, win-win parenting Leave a comment

A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing and people-pleasing? Were you…