Stress-Producing Obstacles in Relationships

Patterns to avoid Want to reduce conflict, pain, and alienation in relationships with the important people in your life? Here are some of the patterns that make connecting difficult. (Some suggestions for resolution below.) • Needing to be in charge or in control, especially when it depends on disempowering or controlling others, or when it disregards…

Starting Fresh

Beginning a new year. Or a new day. Note: I started this post on Feb. 8, 2014 and, like many things I started during the time I was working on the perfectionism book, lost track of it before I finished. I think the idea of coming back more than 2 years later to complete this…

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Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging your relationships, making you sick, and holding your happiness hostage. Note: This page is available for newsletter subscribers, site visitors, and social media friends and followers. While I can’t compete with Amazon on price, I can promise that your order will be signed and sent with love. Thanks!  What’s wrong…

Presentation: The Perfection Deception

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging our relationships, making us sick, and holding our happiness hostage Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Perfectionism may sound like a good thing, but it’s entirely different from the more realistic and achievable healthy pursuit of excellence. Working diligently toward improvement, learning, and growth is also far less destructive (and…

Book: The Perfection Deception

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging your relationships, making you sick, and holding your happiness hostage. Save 15% off regular price. We are closing our Store and only have a few copies of this book on hand.  Have you ever: * compared yourself to others and seemed to come up short? * felt like…

Interview Questions: The Perfection Deception

Interview Questions for The Perfection Deception by Dr. Jane Bluestein The following questions about The Perfection Deception have been provided to help guide your interview. Please feel free to ask any questions the book or topic inspires. In a live interview, Dr. Bluestein’s responses may not match the answers provided below. 1. At the beginning of…

Writing About Perfectionism

An interesting journey: 2013-2015 A few weeks ago, I was invited to co-author a new edition of a book on perfectionism. I was, at the time, talking with two other friends about doing a leadership book in the Win-Win series sometime this fall, and I was also looking over a collection of notes for a book on recovery…

The Future and Art of Drug Education with Jeff Wolfsberg

Ways to Reach Students Effectively Episode Summary: The good and the bad of current drug education programs in school, including the problems with information-based programs, the value of getting input from students, and 

Where Dr. Jane Bluestein has Presented

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