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Tag: i-messages

Motivation vs. Manipulation

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 1, 2016May 1, 2022 Categories: Feedback and encouragement, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Recognition and Reinforcement, Teaching Tags: authority relationships, autonomy, choices, i-messages, manipulation, motivation, obedience vs. cooperation, people pleasing, positive consequences, praise, purpose, recognition, reinforcement 2 Comments

There is a difference You see the kids on task and behaving, and it’s natural to want to reinforce what they’re doing. By the same token, the kids who are dragging their feet or not doing their work (or chores) may need a bit of a fire lit under them. There are positive and effective…

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