Tired of Nagging Your Kids?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJanuary 6, 2019July 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority autonomy, boundaries, choices, cooperation, encouragement, follow through, gotcha, nagging, opposition, parental authority, positive connection, positive consequences, positivity, power struggles, privileges, saying no to kids, threats, validation, win-win parenting Leave a comment

Here’s What you Can Do Instead You’ve probably heard them all. “Awww, Mom!!” “Do I have to.” Or my all-time favorite, “You can’t make me!” Or maybe your kids’ routines are more along the lines of pouting, arguing, ignoring you (or agreeing and then ignoring you). Either way, in the day-to-day dealings with children, there…

Dream Big!

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 16, 2017June 10, 2022 Counselors, Educators, Feedback and encouragement, Feedback and encouragement, General Interest, Increasing Positivity, Modeling positive behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parents, Problem solving, Social and Emotional Growth "i can", creativity, dream big, dreaming, emotional support, encouragement, fantasies, inspiration, listening, modeling, positivity, protectiveness, supporting children, unconditional love Leave a comment

Encouraging your children’s fantasies—and their future! It’s something a child hears often: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” A simple, even rhetorical question. But for children, this is a serious inquiry that can also be a great opportunity to share their ambitions, dreams, and creative longings. Even if the answers vary…

Wish List for Beginning Teachers

By Dr. Jane BluesteinApril 24, 2016April 30, 2022 Beginning Teachers, Educators, Teacher retention, Teaching autonomy, beginning teachers, community, difficult students, discretion, education profession, encouragement, new teachers, status, support, value, what teachers want, wish list Leave a comment

Interviews with new teachers reveal what they want most: • Encouragement: Feedback that builds on their strengths, not just cautions to “do better” or “try harder.” • Fairness: Not being placed in the toughest schools, given the most challenging students, or being the first asked to make last-minute room or grade level changes • Honesty:…

Interview Questions: The Perfection Deception

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 7, 2015January 24, 2020 For the Media abandonment, adequacy, all-or-nothing, anxiety, attachment, criticism, culture, defining self, emotional safety, encouragement, failure, fear, healthy pursuit of excellence, identity, learning, making mistakes, media, perfectionism, procrastination, rejection, relationships, self-acceptance, self-worth Leave a comment

Interview Questions for The Perfection Deception by Dr. Jane Bluestein The following questions about The Perfection Deception have been provided to help guide your interview. Please feel free to ask any questions the book or topic inspires. In a live interview, Dr. Bluestein’s responses may not match the answers provided below. 1. At the beginning of…

Why Teachers Quit, part 4

By Dr. Jane BluesteinOctober 19, 2013May 4, 2022 Beginning Teachers, Educators, General Interest, Teacher retention autonomy, beginning teachers, challenges for new teachers, difficult parents, difficult students, discretion, encouragement, new teachers, status, teacher retention, value Leave a comment

Part 4: Difficult Students, Difficult Parents Note: The following is an excerpt from The Beginning Teacher’s Survival Guide: Win-Win Strategies for Success, chapter three, “Climate Advisory: Entering Win-Lose Territory.” Although this book also elaborates on why teachers stay in the profession (in my case, since 1973), I believe it is important to also address some of the…

Why Teachers Quit, part 3

By Dr. Jane BluesteinOctober 19, 2013May 4, 2022 Beginning Teachers, Educators, General Interest, Teacher retention beginning teachers, challenges for new teachers, community, encouragement, lack of support, new teachers, support, teacher retention Leave a comment

Part 3: Lack of Support Note: The following is an excerpt from The Beginning Teacher’s Survival Guide: Win-Win Strategies for Success, chapter three, “Climate Advisory: Entering Win-Lose Territory.” Although this book also elaborates on why teachers stay in the profession (in my case, since 1973), I believe it is important to also address some of the issues…

Picking up the Pieces

By Dr. Jane BluesteinDecember 23, 2012May 8, 2022 Blog, Counselors, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, General Interest, Increasing Positivity, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, School climate, Social and Emotional Growth acceptance, emotional safety, emotionally safe classroom, encouragement, feedback, healing, identity and failure, self-concept 6 Comments

Reclaiming our essence “I can never read your writing.” “That was awful. Maybe you should leave the athletics to your sister.” “I can’t tell what this drawing is supposed to be.” “You’ll never be any good at…” Do any of these sound familiar? I know very few adults who grew up without at least some…

Book: The Parent’s Little Book of Lists

By Dr. Jane BluesteinSeptember 19, 2012November 21, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Books, Bookstore, bookstore, Discipline, Health and Safety, Homework, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Learning, Learning styles, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Problem solving, Rules and Boundaries, Social and Emotional Growth, Win-win parenting authority boundaries, build decision making, building mutual respect, changing family dynamics, consideration for others, effective parenting, encouragement, follow through, happy families, healthy families, help with chores, help with homework, increasing kids' cooperation, loving relationships, modeling, motivating children, motivating kids, raising responsible children, reducing conflict, respect, self-management, setting limits, supporting children through divorce, teaching gratitude, win-win authority, your child's behavior 3 Comments

Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting (25th Anniversary Edition) by Dr. Jane Bluestein Make the most of your relationship with your children. This book offers practical tips for creating a win-win authority relationship in an atmosphere of love, caring, and mutual respect. Includes thousands of simple, effective, kid-tested ideas to help you build character,…