Bully-Proofing Kids

By Dr. Michele BorbaJune 11, 2022June 12, 2022 Counselors, Creating community, Educators, Feedback and encouragement, Health and Safety, Parenting, Parents, Problem solving, SEL- Social and Emotional Learning, Uncategorized building independence, bully-proofing, bullying, comebacks to bullies, confidence, dignity, kids and power, reducing vulnerability, strategies for dealing with bullies, teaching assertiveness Leave a comment

Real strategies to teach kids so they are less likely to be bullied Adapted from an article sent to me by Dr. Michele Borba in 2011. Some of the language was modified to shift away from the term “victim” to emphasize a more self-empowered term: “target.” And although this article was originally written for parents,…

6 Ways to Take More Time for Yourself

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 12, 2015June 10, 2022 Parents, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself building independence, make self a priority, self-care, take a break from your kids, time away from kids Leave a comment

Making yourself a priority • When your children are young, start building their independence so they learn to to give you some space. Start by spending one minute in a separate room or part of the house—or less if you have to. Add a little more time each day until you work up to what feels…

An Alternative to Advice Giving

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 8, 2013May 4, 2022 Building responsibility, Counselors, Educators, General Interest, Problem solving, Social and Emotional Growth, Students alternative to advice giving, asking questions, building independence, helping kids explore options, listening, problem solving skills, student responsibility

Asking questions to guide problem solving The questions that follow are provided to help with the mechanics of mastering the technique of “asking—not telling,” an effective alternative to giving kids advice that encourages independence and problem-solving competence. The questions are

Building Decision-Making Skills

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 25, 2012June 9, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Classroom management, Creativity and independence, Differentiating Instruction, Motivating your kids, Parents, Problem solving, Teaching benefits of offering choices to kids, building independence, choices you can offer, decision making, guiding children in decision making, making choices, offering options at home, offering options in school, problem solving skills Leave a comment

Helping kids make constructive choices Responsible behavior includes the ability to connect “what I’ve done” to “what happens (or happened) as a result of what I’ve done.” Likewise, self-concept is influenced by an individual’s belief that “I have the power and ability to impact my environment and change what isn’t working in my life.” Offering…