Book: The Beginning Teacher’s Survival Guide

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 13, 2021April 27, 2023 Assessment and Testing, Avoiding burnout, Avoiding power struggles, Beginning Teachers, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Body and Brain, Books, Building responsibility, Classroom management, Creating community, Cultural Changes, Culture and Community, Discipline, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, Feedback and encouragement, Health and Safety, Homework, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Leadership, Learning, Learning styles, Life Management, Mentorship, Modeling positive behavior, Motivating cooperation, Non-traditional learners, Parent-Teacher relationships, Problem solving, Professional growth, Recognition and reinforcement, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, School climate, Schools in Society, Self-care and Inspiration, Social and Emotional Growth, Special Needs, Taking care of yourself, Teacher Appreciation, Teacher retention, Teaching, Teaching, Tolerance and Respect, Win-win authority avoiding power struggles, beginning teachers, boundaries, challenges for new teachers, creating community, difficult students, discipline, emotional safety, emotionally safe classroom, learning differences, parent-teacher relationships, positive consequences, professional development feedback, professional growth, professional identity, school culture, self-care, student behavior, student self-management, teacher retention, teaching

Win-Win Strategies for Success by Dr. Jane Bluestein At the start or your career or at the end of your rope… Get your teaching career off to a winning start—or recharge your passion for your work! The new & revised edition of Dr. Jane Bluestein’s pivotal guide for your teaching career! A great gift for new…

Tired of Nagging Your Kids?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJanuary 6, 2019July 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority autonomy, boundaries, choices, cooperation, encouragement, follow through, gotcha, nagging, opposition, parental authority, positive connection, positive consequences, positivity, power struggles, privileges, saying no to kids, threats, validation, win-win parenting Leave a comment

Here’s What you Can Do Instead You’ve probably heard them all. “Awww, Mom!!” “Do I have to.” Or my all-time favorite, “You can’t make me!” Or maybe your kids’ routines are more along the lines of pouting, arguing, ignoring you (or agreeing and then ignoring you). Either way, in the day-to-day dealings with children, there…

“Making Someone Wrong”

By Dr. Jane BluesteinApril 23, 2014May 3, 2022 Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, General Interest, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Modeling positive behavior, Motivating your kids, Parents, Problem solving, Relationships, Taking care of yourself alternative to criticism, alternatives to anger, alternatives to impatience, blaming, boundaries, calm response, criticism, culprits, expectation, impatience, justifiable anger alternatives, labeling, making people wrong, making wrong, positive behavior, responding in anger, self-care, self-care in relationships, shaming 2 Comments

What does that really mean? In what has become a bit of a family joke, my husband and I can spend the entire day together in the house. Yet, regardless of how much time we’ve been talking or interacting, something happens the minute I reach for my keys to leave for a meeting, class, or…

“Magic” Sentences for Effective Communication

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 28, 2013December 1, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, General Interest, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority avoid conflicts, boundaries, communicating with adults, communicating with kids, de-escalating conflicts, dealing with kids, negotiating agreements, self-care, setting boundaries, teachable moments, unacceptable behavior Leave a comment

Positive language for avoiding conflict, negotiating agreements, and taking care of yourself “Magic Sentences” are key phrases that offer practical ways to use specific language to prevent, minimize, or de-escalate conflicts with others. Different sentences will be useful in different situations. These examples represent a win-win approach to relationships, and while they were originally developed for…

Book: The Parent’s Little Book of Lists

By Dr. Jane BluesteinSeptember 19, 2012November 21, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Books, bookstore, Bookstore, Discipline, Health and Safety, Homework, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Learning, Learning styles, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Problem solving, Rules and Boundaries, Social and Emotional Growth, Win-win parenting authority boundaries, build decision making, building mutual respect, changing family dynamics, consideration for others, effective parenting, encouragement, follow through, happy families, healthy families, help with chores, help with homework, increasing kids' cooperation, loving relationships, modeling, motivating children, motivating kids, raising responsible children, reducing conflict, respect, self-management, setting limits, supporting children through divorce, teaching gratitude, win-win authority, your child's behavior 3 Comments

Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting (25th Anniversary Edition) by Dr. Jane Bluestein Make the most of your relationship with your children. This book offers practical tips for creating a win-win authority relationship in an atmosphere of love, caring, and mutual respect. Includes thousands of simple, effective, kid-tested ideas to help you build character,…

Interview questions: The Parent’s Little Book of Lists

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 13, 2012May 30, 2022 For the Media authority relationship, boundaries, building responsibility, changing the parent-child relationship, encouraging commitment from kids, follow through, parenting, parents and teens, respect, setting boundaries, unconditional love Leave a comment

Possible interview questions for Dr. Jane Bluestein: • Why lists? • Where did the lists come from?

The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 10, 2012May 31, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Teaching, Win-win parenting authority alternative to authoritarian parenting, alternative to permissive parenting, avoiding power struggles, boundaries, dealing with negative behavior, discipline, getting your kids to cooperate, healthy relationships, motivating your kids, recognition, reinforcement, rules, win-win parenting Leave a comment

A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing and people-pleasing? Were you…