Kids’ Behavior

Resources for parents and other caregivers

Topics relating to your children’s behavior, including discipline, motivation, win-win authority relationships and power dynamics, building responsibility, recognition and reinforcement, rules and boundaries, follow-through, and intervening negative behavior.

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Articles, handouts, and blogs

9 Ways to be More Proactive
9 Ways to Encourage Your Children’s Individuality
10 Characteristics of Healthy Adult-Child Relationships
An Alternative to Advice-Giving: Building Problem-Solving Skills
Behavior Profiles and Power
The Challenge of Setting Boundaries
Characteristics of a Good Boundary
Children at Risk: Common characteristics and family patterns
Conflict Prevention and Conflict Resolution (written for teachers, works for parents)
Creating a Safe Emotional Environment for Kids (and Others)
Curfew Blues: Time to Agree About Time
Dangers of Obedience and People Pleasing
Getting through the “Gimme” Season (Tips for joyful giving and staying sane)
Good Parenting or Effective Parenting?
Guidelines for Handling Your Children’s Negative Behavior
Guidelines for Offering Choices to Your Children
Guidelines for Reinforcing Cooperation
How to Avoid Meltdowns in Public
I-Messages: The Handout
It’s Only Disrespect if I Think it’s Disrespect
Magic Sentences for Effective Communication
Making Someone Wrong: What does that really mean?
Motivating Cooperative Behavior
Motivation vs. Manipulation
My Parents Don’t Trust Me!
Obedient vs. Cooperative Behavior: There is a Difference
Parenting Teens (written for counselors with tips for parents)
Perfectionism vs the Healthy Pursuit of Excellence
Power Struggles with a Three-Year-Old: Channeling anger and frustration to get to a positive outcome
Questions, Not Answers
Reasons for Parents to Use Boundaries
Reasons to Not Ask “Why”
Rules and Boundaries
Spare the Rod: The case against corporal punishment
Stress-Producing Obstacles in Relationships
Things to Remember when Setting Boundaries
Thinking of “Consequences” as the Good Stuff
Thumbs Up, Thumbs Down: The importance of meaningful feedback
Tired of Nagging Your Kids? Here’s what you can do instead
Ways to be an Effective Mentor
Ways to Build Irresponsibility in Children
Ways to Model Respect with Your Children
What’s So Hard about Win-Win?
What’s Wrong with I-Messages?
When Teachers Lose Their Cool: Help for kids dealing with a mean, aggressive teacher


Book: The Book of Article Reprints
Book: Listas Para Padres: Qué Hacer Y Qué No
Book: The Parent’s Little Book of Lists: Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting
Book: Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line

Audio: Parent Tapes (CDs or mp3 download)

Articles: Individual article reprints for educators, counselors, parents, and general interest.

Stationery Item: Elementary Booster Shots free reproducible black-line masters for elementary kids
Stationery Item: Secondary Booster Shots free reproducible black-line masters for secondary kids

Free download: “Pads” on the Back Templates in multiple languages


The Choice is Yours with Lynn Collins
“Constructive Differencing” with Jared Scherz
Is Control the Goal? with Tammy Cox


Bearing Witness: Support for Kids in Crisis
Grownups, Kids, and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line
“No Really, I’m Fine!” Connecting with Kids in Emotional Distress
Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line
Positively Positive at Home: Keeping the Focus You Want
Secrets of Successful Mentorship: Practical Ideas for Great Leaders
“You Can’t Make Me!” Using Boundaries to Build Responsibility, Cooperation, and Mutual Respect

Other resources for parents

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