Culture and Safety

Resources for parents and other caregivers

Topics relating to culture and community, including promoting social and emotional growth, cultural and social influences, health and safety issues, perfectionism and the pursuit of excellence, bullying and friendship, and building independence and problem solving skills.

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 Articles, handouts, and blogs

7 Steps to Bully-Proofing Kids by Naomi Drew
9 Ways to Encourage Your Children’s Individuality
An Alternative to Advice Giving: Questions to guide problem solving
Appreciating Diversity: What kids are really learning
Are We Still Guilty of Gender Stereotyping? Self-assessment survey
Back to the Future? Not so much, thank you
Bearing Witness: Support for children in crisis
Behavior Profiles and Power
Bouncing Back: The art of resiliency
Brave New World: The changing role of schools in society
Building Decision-Making Skills: Helping kids make constructive choices
“Bully” is a Four-Letter Word by Dr. Jo Ann Freiberg
Bullying Checklist for Kids by Naomi Drew
Bully-Proofing Kids by Dr. Michele Borba
Checklist: Characteristics of Healthy Parent-Child Relationships
Children at Risk: Common characteristics and family patterns
The Challenge of Setting Boundaries
Creating a Safe Emotional Environment for Kids (and Others)
Creating Kindness: Doing good whether it does any good or not
Dangers of Obedience and People Pleasing
The Dignity Stance

Dream Big! Encouraging your children’s fantasies—and their future
Expert on Bullying Discusses Ways to Reduce the Problem
Fear, Stress, and Learning
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships
I-Messages: The Handout
Industrial Age vs. Information Age
Jane Bluestein Discusses Emotionally Safe Schools: Interview
My Parents Don’t Trust Me!
The Myth of the Self-Esteem “Myth”
Non-Supportive Responses to Avoid: Yes, these really do make things worse!
Obedient vs. Cooperative Behavior
Parenting Teens (written for counselors, with tips to help parents)
Perfectionism vs. The Healthy Pursuit of Excellence

Playing Well with Others: Not all it’s cracked up to be
Pretty and Popular: Bias and discrimination in schools
Preventing Bullying in the Digital Age: Understanding and managing cyberspace aggression
Questions, not Answers
Reasons to Not Ask “Why”
Rules and Beliefs of Unhealthy Systems
The School as a Dysfunctional Family (Systems dysfunction)
Stressful or Painful School Experiences: Events that can compromise emotional safety and learning
Supportive Alternatives for Dealing with Other People’s Problems and Feelings
Survey: Is Your School an Emotionally Safe Place?
Thumbs up, Thumbs Down: The importance of meaningful feedback
Understanding Schools in Context
Ways to Build Tolerance and Respect for Diversity
Ways to Model Respect with Your Children
What is Optimal Self-Esteem: Egosystem or Ecosystem?
What’s So Hard about Win-Win?
What’s Wrong with I-Messages?
When Teachers Lose Their Cool: Help for kids dealing with a mean, aggressive teacher
“You Belong” poem by Naomi Drew


Book: The Book of Article Reprints
Book: Creating Emotionally Safe Schools
Book: High School’s Not Forever
Book: Listas Para Padres: Qué Hacer Y Qué No
Book: The Parent’s Little Book of Lists: Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting
Book: Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line

Audio: Parent Tapes (CDs or mp3 download)

Articles: Individual article reprints for educators, counselors, parents, and general interest.

Stationery Item: Elementary Booster Shots free reproducible black-line masters for elementary kids
Stationery Item: Secondary Booster Shots free reproducible black-line masters for secondary kids

Free download: “Pads” on the Back Templates in multiple languages


The Adversity Connection with Dan Deigan
An Attitude of Gratitude with Judy Lawrence, M.S.Ed.
“Bully” is a Four-Letter Word with Jo Ann Freiberg
Bullying Podcast with Stan Davis
The Choice is Yours with Lynn Collins
Compassionate Schools with James Wright
“Constructive Differencing” with Jared Scherz
Creating an Environment of Resiliency in School with David Friedli
The Future and Art of Drug Education with Jeffrey Wolfsberg
No Kidding About Bullying with Naomi Drew
Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good with Dr. Miriam Adderholdt
The Saber-Tooth Curriculum Revisited with Dr. Richard Biffle


Are Your Colleagues Driving You Crazy? Building bridges with difficult people in your life
Bearing Witness: Support for kids in crisis
Boundaries 101: From basic to black-belt self-care techniques
Creating Emotionally Safe Schools: Is your school an emotionally safe place?
Grownups, Kids, and Boundaries: How to draw the line
“No Really, I’m Fine!” Connecting with kids in emotional distress
Positively Positive at Home: Keeping the focus you want

Other resources for parents

Please Note: Some resource include material originally developed for educators with content that is equally applicable for parents and caregivers.

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