What is Optimal Self-Esteem?

By Robert ReasonerJuly 6, 2022July 6, 2022 Counselors, Educators, Feedback and encouragement, General Interest, Life Management, Parenting, Perfectionism, Perfectionism, Recognition and Reinforcement, SEL- Social and Emotional Learning, Self-care and Inspiration, Social and Emotional Growth approval, authentic self, autonomy, competence, ecosystem, feedback, improvement, power, progress, seeking approval, self, self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-motivation, sense of worth Leave a comment

Egosystem or Ecosystem? This piece was contributed by Robert W. Reasoner, former president of the International Council for Self-Esteem. It appeared in the council’s Research Bulletin #1, May 20, 2006 It is generally accepted that people seek to maintain, enhance, and protect their self-esteem. Although there may be cultural variability in its expression, the tendency to seek self-esteem is…

Icelandic “Pads” on the Back™ Template

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 24, 2016May 3, 2022 Free Product, Gratitude and inspiration, Pads on the Back Templates, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement, Translations Leave a comment

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Icelandic by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Free download: Get…

Motivation vs. Manipulation

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 1, 2016May 1, 2022 Feedback and encouragement, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement, Teaching authority relationships, autonomy, choices, i-messages, manipulation, motivation, obedience vs. cooperation, people pleasing, positive consequences, praise, purpose, recognition, reinforcement 2 Comments

There is a difference You see the kids on task and behaving, and it’s natural to want to reinforce what they’re doing. By the same token, the kids who are dragging their feet or not doing their work (or chores) may need a bit of a fire lit under them. There are positive and effective…

Checklist: Characteristics of Healthy Parent-Child Relationships

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 16, 2015May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Feedback and encouragement, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, Taking care of yourself, Win-win parenting authority 2 Comments

Evaluate your relationships Use this checklist to evaluate patterns in your current relationships with the children in your life (or even other adults in your life). If you have implemented a specific discipline or motivation approach, does it encourage relationships in which the following are true? Proactivity: ___ I focus on prevention–not reaction. ___ I…

How Do You Parent?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 14, 2015June 9, 2022 Discipline, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Noticing patterns in parenting styles Let’s examine your current parenting patterns and values. In each pair of statements, mark the one that you identify with most strongly, the one that “feels” most like you. ___ I respect the fact that my child has different tastes than I do. ___ I am often embarrassed by my…

Product: “Pads” on the Back

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 25, 2014May 3, 2022 Behavior Management, Educators, General Interest, Motivating cooperation, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Recognition and Reinforcement, Stationery item 2 Comments

Like Getting a Hug on Paper by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Dr. Lynn Collins We are sold out of all remaining stock of this. Our distributor has stopped producing this product. See link for free downloads of the 8 original messaged. This item is no longer in production. The good news is that you can…

Presentation: Win-Win Parenting

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJuly 17, 2014May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Counselors, Discipline, Discipline, Feedback and encouragement, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Presentation, Presentation for parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

A comprehensive and positive approach for parents and caregivers Formerly called Parents in a Pressure Cooker, this program offers dozens of practical, positive, and effective strategies to help parents build kids’ cooperation, responsibility, and self-management in a caring, mutually-respectful, win-win environment.

Chaldean “Pads” on the Back™ Template

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 13, 2013May 3, 2022 Gratitude and inspiration, Pads on the Back Templates, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement Leave a comment

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Chaldean by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Get the…

Afrikaans “Pads” on the Back™ Template

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJuly 26, 2013May 4, 2022 Counselors, Educators, General Interest, Pads on the Back Templates, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement appreciation, good notes, positive communication Leave a comment

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Afrikaans by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Free download:…

Armenian (Western) “Pads” on the Back

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 3, 2013May 6, 2022 Counselors, Educators, Pads on the Back Templates, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Recognition and Reinforcement 1 Comment

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Western Armenian by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Click…