How to Draw the Line Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Ah, the Terrific Teens! What a perfect time to refine— or redefine— your relationship with your child!
Using boundaries to build responsibility, cooperation, and mutual respect Presentation for educators or parents by Dr. Jane Bluestein Few things are as aggravating or exhausting as power struggles with kids. If you find yourself nagging, arguing or threatening, being ignored by your children (or students) or having your authority challenged, then
Things you can do to reinforce children’s irresponsible behavior • Lie for them. • Make excuses for their behavior. Correct (or pay for) their mistakes for them. • Model a lack of responsibility, commitment, and follow-through yourself. • Refuse to believe that they are capable of doing what they’ve been accused of doing.
A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing and people-pleasing? Were you…