Presentation: “You Can’t Make Me!”

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 13, 2012May 30, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Beginning Teachers, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Classroom management, Counselors, Discipline, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Parenting, Parenting, Presentation, Presentation for educators, Presentation for parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Teaching, Teaching, Win-win authority Leave a comment

Using boundaries to build responsibility, cooperation, and mutual respect Presentation for educators or parents by Dr. Jane Bluestein Few things are as aggravating or exhausting as power struggles with kids. If you find yourself nagging, arguing or threatening, being ignored by your children (or students) or having your authority challenged, then

5 Tips for Raising Fiscally Sound Children

By Judy Lawrence, M.S.Ed.August 12, 2012May 31, 2022 Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Parenting, Parenting, Problem solving Leave a comment

Building Life-long Skills Raising fiscally conscious children during these times of constant change, economic turbulence, daily media bombardment, and

Ways to Avoid Problems with Your Children Over Money

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 12, 2012May 31, 2022 Building responsibility, Parenting, Parenting, Problem solving Leave a comment

Practical Ideas to Avoid Conflict and Build Responsibility • Let your children know what you’re willing to buy them or how much they can have to spend before you go to the store. • If you don’t plan to buy them a particular item they want,

Ways to be an Effective Mentor

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 12, 2012May 31, 2022 Counselors, Culture and Community, Educators, General Interest, Leadership, Mentorship, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Social and Emotional Growth, Teaching, Teaching Leave a comment

This list was originally developed to help parents mentor their children. The suggestions listed below are equally relevant to mentor relationships with students, employees, and other adults. • Accept your children unconditionally, just the way they are. Begin with them wherever they

Ways to Build IRRESPONSIBILITY in Children

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 12, 2012May 31, 2022 Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Culture and Community, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Social and Emotional Growth, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Things you can do to reinforce children’s irresponsible behavior • Lie for them. • Make excuses for their behavior. Correct (or pay for) their mistakes for them. • Model a lack of responsibility, commitment, and follow-through yourself. • Refuse to believe that they are capable of doing what they’ve been accused of doing.

Parenting Teens

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 12, 2012May 31, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority all-or-nothing thinking, boundaries and teens, boundary issues with teens, conflict with teens, expectations, healthy parents healthy teens, kids as teens, non-authoritarian approach to parenting, not giving up, obstacles to parenting success, parental control, parenting, parenting teens, setting limits with teens, win-win parenting, win-win relationships with teens Leave a comment

How to Draw the Line Counselors know that when parents set clear boundaries, they take care of their teens and themselves.

Positive Consequences

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 11, 2012May 31, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Classroom management, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Teaching, Teaching, Win-win authority Leave a comment

A very different approach Here’s a new spin on the notion of “consequences,” a term familiar to every educator. But rather than looking at the negative outcome of behavioral choices your students make, let’s

Ways to be a More Conscious Parent

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 11, 2012May 31, 2022 Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Relationships Leave a comment

14 Tips for Becoming More Aware of How You Interact with Your Children • Identify your parenting goals. Think of what you want your relationship to be like and what you can do to make that happen. Look at both

The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 10, 2012May 31, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Teaching, Win-win parenting authority alternative to authoritarian parenting, alternative to permissive parenting, avoiding power struggles, boundaries, dealing with negative behavior, discipline, getting your kids to cooperate, healthy relationships, motivating your kids, recognition, reinforcement, rules, win-win parenting Leave a comment

A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing and people-pleasing? Were you…

Questions, Not Answers

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 5, 2012June 1, 2022 Classroom management, Parenting, Parenting, Problem solving, Social and Emotional Growth, Teaching benefits of using questions to help solve problems, guiding children in decision making, helping kids solve problems, problem solving, using questions instead of giving answers Leave a comment

Benefits of asking questions instead of giving answers These points are offered as an alternative to advice giving. While written especially with children in mind, I have found using questions (along with a bit of genuine empathy) as effective tools to support adults as well. • Questions help children explore dimensions of a problem. •…