14 Façons d’être un Parent Plus Conscient

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 12, 2014May 2, 2022 Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Relationships Leave a comment

Par Jane Bluestein Ph.D. • Identifiez vos buts concernant l’éducation de votre enfant. Pensez au type de relation que vous cherchez à établir, et à ce que vous pouvez faire pour l’obtenir. Regardez les objectifs à long et à court-terme. • Faites-vous un petit panneau qui dit : « Ma relation avec mon enfant (ou mes enfants) est importante….

The 7 Worst Things to Say to Your Kids During a Divorce

By Chick Moorman and Thomas HallerFebruary 9, 2014June 1, 2022 Counselors, Parenting, Parenting, Parents 2 Comments

Helping children make the transition By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller When you said the words, “I do,” on your wedding day, the idea of divorce probably never entered your mind. Nor was it even a fleeting thought when you witnessed the birth of your first child. Chances are it never occurred to you at…

Curfew Blues?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinSeptember 4, 2013May 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority curfew, negotiating agreement, positive consequences, securing agreement from kids, seeking win-win outcomes, setting boundaries, setting limits Leave a comment

Time to Agree about Time Do you get pushback from your kids when you try to enforce a curfew time? If so, you’re in good company. This is an area of conflict for many families and very often, the automatic response to a child’s negative response—whether sulking, arguing, complaining, or flat-out defiance—tends to result in

Good Parenting or Effective Parenting?

By Tammy CoxJune 9, 2013May 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Win-win parenting authority alternatives to control, controlling children, effective parenting, guiding children, kind and firm parenting, parenting, teaching self-control 2 Comments

What is the Difference? Good parents control their children. Right? When a child is throwing a temper tantrum at the supermarket, everyone is thinking, “If they were good parents, they’d control that kid!” Well, perhaps not everyone thinks that, but when it’s our child and we are the ones on center stage, it usually feels…

Is Control the Goal? with Tammy Cox

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 9, 2013May 8, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

The high price of trying to control children Episode Summary: Power is an intrinsic need we all have from day one! When it comes to adult-child relationships, power struggles are consistently at the top of the list. We all know that kids need limits and structure to grow into responsible adults, but there is also an…

5 Characteristics of a Good Boundary- For Parents

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 31, 2013May 7, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

And why they are better than rules Boundaries are tools for building cooperation in relationships, for letting others know what you want, and for letting them know which options are available to them (for getting what they want). Set boundaries when you want behaviors to change and wish to avoid negative, stressful behaviors such as…

11 Reasons to Use Boundaries- For Parents

By Dr. Jane BluesteinDecember 10, 2012May 9, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Counselors, Discipline, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Establishing your authority with boundaries * Boundaries allow you to express your limits and to communicate the conditions or availability of certain privileges that your children desire. * Boundaries prevent conflict and build win-win power structures. They help you take care of yourself while attempting to accommodate your children’s needs or desires. * Boundaries build…

9 Things to Remember when Setting Boundaries- For Parents

By Dr. Jane BluesteinDecember 10, 2012May 9, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Counselors, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Practical tips for making boundaries work * Use boundaries to let your children know your limits and tolerances, your availability, the conditions under which you will participate in some activity, which privileges are available, or the conditions under which a privilege is available to your children. Use boundaries to give your children information they can…

Ways to Model Respect with your Children

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 28, 2012May 17, 2022 Behavior Management, Counselors, Creating community, Educators, Leadership, Modeling positive behavior, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Social and Emotional Growth, Tolerance and Respect Leave a comment

Practical ways to teach respectful behavior This list was compiled for a book for parents. Many of these tips will also apply to educators and others who work with young people. • Listen. Make eye contact when your children are talking to you. Make an effort to really hear and appreciate what your children are…