Tired of Nagging Your Kids?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJanuary 6, 2019July 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority autonomy, boundaries, choices, cooperation, encouragement, follow through, gotcha, nagging, opposition, parental authority, positive connection, positive consequences, positivity, power struggles, privileges, saying no to kids, threats, validation, win-win parenting Leave a comment

Here’s What you Can Do Instead You’ve probably heard them all. “Awww, Mom!!” “Do I have to.” Or my all-time favorite, “You can’t make me!” Or maybe your kids’ routines are more along the lines of pouting, arguing, ignoring you (or agreeing and then ignoring you). Either way, in the day-to-day dealings with children, there…

Checklist: Characteristics of Healthy Parent-Child Relationships

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 16, 2015May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Feedback and encouragement, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, Taking care of yourself, Win-win parenting authority 2 Comments

Evaluate your relationships Use this checklist to evaluate patterns in your current relationships with the children in your life (or even other adults in your life). If you have implemented a specific discipline or motivation approach, does it encourage relationships in which the following are true? Proactivity: ___ I focus on prevention–not reaction. ___ I…

9 Ways to be More Proactive

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 14, 2015May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Parenting, Parenting, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Thinking ahead, avoiding problems • Write down your parenting goals. Be specific about behaviors, principles and long-term outcomes that are important to you. It’s easier to anticipate, plan and prevent problems when you know what you’re trying to achieve! • Involve your children in discussions of your family’s goals, values and priorities. • Review your parenting goals…

9 Ways to Encourage Your Children’s Individuality

By Dr. Jane BluesteinAugust 10, 2014May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Counselors, Parenting, Parenting, Parents 4 Comments

Appreciating your children’s uniqueness Even if your children are the spitting image of you, unless they are clones, you know that they are going to be different from you. And if you do indeed have more than one, they are going to be different from one another. This uniqueness contributes to the “personality” of your family, a potential…

Presentation: Win-Win Parenting

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJuly 17, 2014May 2, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Counselors, Discipline, Discipline, Feedback and encouragement, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Presentation, Presentation for parents, Recognition and Reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

A comprehensive and positive approach for parents and caregivers Formerly called Parents in a Pressure Cooker, this program offers dozens of practical, positive, and effective strategies to help parents build kids’ cooperation, responsibility, and self-management in a caring, mutually-respectful, win-win environment.

It’s Only Disrespect if I Think it’s Disrespect

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 12, 2013July 4, 2023 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, General Interest, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Modeling positive behavior, Parents, Tolerance and Respect classroom climate, defensive kids, don't take the bait, positive interactions, school climate, snarky students, teacher-student relationships, understanding defensiveness, validation Leave a comment

Attitudes are in the eye—and ear—of the beholder Do you have snarky people in your life? This post was adapted from material originally written for beginning teachers. The same ideas and strategies are equally effective in home and work environments, as well as any educational setting. Just substitute “student” (or “kid”) for “child,” “co-worker,” or…

Curfew Blues?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinSeptember 4, 2013May 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority curfew, negotiating agreement, positive consequences, securing agreement from kids, seeking win-win outcomes, setting boundaries, setting limits Leave a comment

Time to Agree about Time Do you get pushback from your kids when you try to enforce a curfew time? If so, you’re in good company. This is an area of conflict for many families and very often, the automatic response to a child’s negative response—whether sulking, arguing, complaining, or flat-out defiance—tends to result in

Good Parenting or Effective Parenting?

By Tammy CoxJune 9, 2013May 4, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Win-win parenting authority alternatives to control, controlling children, effective parenting, guiding children, kind and firm parenting, parenting, teaching self-control 2 Comments

What is the Difference? Good parents control their children. Right? When a child is throwing a temper tantrum at the supermarket, everyone is thinking, “If they were good parents, they’d control that kid!” Well, perhaps not everyone thinks that, but when it’s our child and we are the ones on center stage, it usually feels…

Is Control the Goal? with Tammy Cox

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJune 9, 2013May 8, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parenting, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

The high price of trying to control children Episode Summary: Power is an intrinsic need we all have from day one! When it comes to adult-child relationships, power struggles are consistently at the top of the list. We all know that kids need limits and structure to grow into responsible adults, but there is also an…

5 Characteristics of a Good Boundary- For Parents

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 31, 2013May 7, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Discipline, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parents, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

And why they are better than rules Boundaries are tools for building cooperation in relationships, for letting others know what you want, and for letting them know which options are available to them (for getting what they want). Set boundaries when you want behaviors to change and wish to avoid negative, stressful behaviors such as…