How to disagree and still maintain contact The following offers additional resource material related to the conversation with Dr. Jared Scherz, (audio file/podcast) recorded on Dec. 14, 2011. The main points include: One of the most stress-producing obstacles in any relationship is the need to be right when it requires others to be wrong. Differences […]
The high cost of the pressure to be perfect What’s wrong with perfectionism? Everything! Here are the causes and consequences of perfectionism—plus a few suggestions for potential “cures.” Some young people continually strive for excellence, trying to do their best, willing to make mistakes and learn from them, and take on challenges to grow their interests. Others chase perfection, […]
Abstract Objectives and Purpose of Proposal In his 1939 book, The Saber-Tooth Curriculum, Harold Benjamin (aka J. Abner Pediwell) sketched a parable of stagnate curriculum reform. The book is a metaphorical and historical account of the development of an educational system. This paper addresses, through the “lens” of Pediwell, the critical need to examine the […]
Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging our relationships, making us sick, and holding our happiness hostage Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Perfectionism may sound like a good thing, but it’s entirely different from the more realistic and achievable healthy pursuit of excellence. Working diligently toward improvement, learning, and growth is also far less destructive (and […]
Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging your relationships, making you sick, and holding your happiness hostage. Save 15% off regular price. Have you ever: * compared yourself to others and seemed to come up short? * felt like no matter how much you did or how hard you tried, it wasn’t enough? * set […]
Understanding and managing cyberspace aggression Guest blogger Amy Williams shares what to watch for and how to prevent meanness in the digital age. The ripple effect of bullying can be felt across all lanes of life. Similar to raging drivers on the road, aggressive Internet users can create a threatening environment for the people around them. […]
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Not so much, thank you! I’m out of town this week for several speaking engagements in New England. As usual, I have a rental car, a brand new Toyota with all sorts of bells and whistles that didn’t exist when I bought my last car 13 years ago. As I sat in the parking lot […]
Learn what kids say works best, and what makes things worse Episode Summary: Dr. Jane Bluestein talks with author and retired therapist Stan Davis about the true value of the advice kids receive and the interventions they experience when they experience mistreatment at the hands of their peers. (more…)
A self-assessment survey for teachers, childcare workers, and others Ted, a 32-year-old math teacher, meets up with Jack, a 38-year-old PE teacher and Joyce, a 28-year-old science teacher in the hall on the first day of school. As they were discussing the recent departure of Debbie, the former school librarian, Ted suddenly notices Joan, the […]
Two very different classrooms On this page you will find a comparison between traditional classrooms established according to the demands of an industrial-age or factory economy, and win-win classrooms adapted to the needs the information age, particularly as these differences correspond to classroom values, priorities, motivators, authority relationships, desired (encouraged) student behaviors, and discipline goals. […]
Foundations of unhealthy adult-child group systems For much of my recent career, I have referred the following two lists (“Rules” and “Beliefs”) as the basis for the paradigm in which many of our current practices and polices exist. The information comes from Alice Miller’s work (cited below) and represents destructive, if common, ideas which cumulatively […]
The Changing Role of the School This page presents the first section of Chapter 9, “Brave New World: The Changing Role of Schools,” from Creating Emotionally Safe Schools, © 2001, Health Communications, Inc., Deerfield Beach, FL. This excerpt was copied from the final draft of the manuscript. The material in the book may vary slightly. The world […]
The reality of the high school experience by Dr. Jane Bluestein and Eric Katz, M.S.A.C. Save 30% off retail price. How often do kids hear that high school is supposed to be the best time of their lives? Yet for many students, these years are painful, difficult, and stressful— with academic and social pressures, physical […]
What People Are Saying about this Book by Dr. Jane Bluestein Finally a voice of reason arises from the din. School safety transcends debates on metal detectors and surveillance cameras. Within the walls of our schools exists (more…)
Keeping up with the pace of change Episode Summary: How well does our educational system fit in with the cultural and economic context in which they exist—or not! Dr. Biffle and Dr. Bluestein explores the challenges of (more…)
Catching up to the 21st Century Note: The earliest version of this piece was written for a now-out-of-print book, 21st Century Discipline, back in the mid-1980s when the 21st century still felt a way off. The material was reworked slightly for The Win-Win Classroom, (more…)
How Well do Schools Reflect the Culture they Serve? Excerpt from Becoming a Win-Win Teacher (by Jane Bluestein, Ph.D., Thousand Oaks, CA: Corwin Publishing, 2010). Chapter title adapted for this site. The material shared here was taken from the manuscript from this book. The actual published chapter may be slightly different. All links were working […]