Category: Motivating cooperation

The Problem with Zero Tolerance and Push Out Strategies
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How these programs are making things worse On March 4, 2015, I had the privilege of keynoting the National Youth At Risk Conference for the second time. In meeting with many of the participants who attended the keynote and my follow-up session, as well as what I’ve observed in my visits to schools around the country and…

Product: “Pads” on the Back
By Categories: Behavior Management, Educators, General Interest, Motivating cooperation, Parenting, Parents, Recognition and reinforcement, Recognition and Reinforcement, Stationery item 2 Comments

Like Getting a Hug on Paper by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Dr. Lynn Collins We are sold out of all remaining stock of this. Our distributor has stopped producing this product. See link for free downloads of the 8 original messaged.  This item is no longer in production. The good news is that you can…

Book: Managing 21st Century Classrooms
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How to avoid ineffective classroom management practices! by Dr. Jane Bluestein You know all those behavior management strategies we learned to use in our teacher ed classes (and many subsequent workshops)? Well guess what! Some of them are actually making things worse! It’s long past time for our approach to classroom management to catch up to…

Obedient vs. Cooperative Behavior
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There is a difference! As you can imagine, my perceptions and ideas about children’s behavior have evolved over the years, including shifts in the vocabulary and conceptual framework I use in my writing and seminars. These changes have been especially evident in relation to the concepts I explore in this post. Because it’s so easy…

“Magic” Sentences for Effective Communication
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Positive language for avoiding conflict, negotiating agreements, and taking care of yourself “Magic Sentences” are key phrases that offer practical ways to use specific language to prevent, minimize, or de-escalate conflicts with others. Different sentences will be useful in different situations. These examples represent a win-win approach to relationships, and while they were originally developed for…

Leading Learning with Glenn Capelli
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The art, science, and craft of teaching Episode Summary: Did you ever have a teacher who changed your life? Dr. Jane Bluestein talks with author, speaker, and songwriter Glenn Capelli about how teachers can have a powerful impact on a child’s life—for good or bad. They discuss the importance of new and different experiences, including encounters…

What’s Wrong with I-Messages?
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Problems with a popular formula This article was originally written for an issue of Families in Recovery, a parenting magazine that is no longer in print. I come back to revise and add to it from time to time, particularly when I see this strategy being promoted in advice columns or seminars. After more than…

What’s so Hard About Win-Win?
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Getting past old win-lose traditions This article was written for Educational Leadership magazine. A similar version appeared in the September 2011 edition of that magazine. Talk about safe, respectful schools and at some point, the term win-win is bound to come up. First coined in the 1920s by human relations and management pioneer Mary Parker…

Rules and Boundaries
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Effectively creating structure in your classroom When I started teaching, I had some reservations about being completely in charge and responsible for the rules, so I tried involving the students in this task. Part of my intention was an honest stab at building a positive, win-win classroom environment, wanting to acknowledge the students’ needs for…