Presentation: Bouncing Back: Resiliency

By Dr. Jane BluesteinOctober 24, 2013May 3, 2022 Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, Feedback and encouragement, Feedback and encouragement, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Problem solving, Recognition and reinforcement, SEL- Social and Emotional Learning, Teaching Leave a comment

Building Resiliency and Persistence in Our Students Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein How often do we see students struggling with a new challenge and just give up? Some don’t even try, and can invent all sorts of excuses—sometimes with their parents’ support—to avoid the risk we all need to take when we’re learning something new….

An Alternative to Advice Giving

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMay 8, 2013May 4, 2022 Building responsibility, Counselors, Educators, General Interest, Problem solving, Social and Emotional Growth, Students alternative to advice giving, asking questions, building independence, helping kids explore options, listening, problem solving skills, student responsibility

Asking questions to guide problem solving The questions that follow are provided to help with the mechanics of mastering the technique of “asking—not telling,” an effective alternative to giving kids advice that encourages independence and problem-solving competence. The questions are

“Magic” Sentences for Effective Communication

By Dr. Jane BluesteinMarch 28, 2013December 1, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, General Interest, Increasing Positivity, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parents, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, Self-care and Inspiration, Taking care of yourself, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority avoid conflicts, boundaries, communicating with adults, communicating with kids, de-escalating conflicts, dealing with kids, negotiating agreements, self-care, setting boundaries, teachable moments, unacceptable behavior Leave a comment

Positive language for avoiding conflict, negotiating agreements, and taking care of yourself “Magic Sentences” are key phrases that offer practical ways to use specific language to prevent, minimize, or de-escalate conflicts with others. Different sentences will be useful in different situations. These examples represent a win-win approach to relationships, and while they were originally developed for…

10 Dangers of Encouraging Obedience and People-Pleasing

By Dr. Jane BluesteinFebruary 9, 2013May 7, 2022 Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Motivating your kids, Parents, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority 1 Comment

It’s not as desirable as it sounds! Parents can’t choose the mates of their children or the behavior of their children. You actually can’t choose anything for your children without disempowering them. —Abraham-Hicks* So many of the parents and teachers who come to my presentations (especially ones like “You Can’t Make Me!” and Dealing with Difficult Students,…

What’s so Hard About Win-Win?

By Dr. Jane BluesteinJanuary 8, 2013May 8, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Creating community, Discipline, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, Intervening negative behavior, Modeling positive behavior, Motivating cooperation, Recognition and reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, School climate, Win-win authority Leave a comment

Getting past old win-lose traditions This article was written for Educational Leadership magazine. A similar version appeared in the September 2011 edition of that magazine. Talk about safe, respectful schools and at some point, the term win-win is bound to come up. First coined in the 1920s by human relations and management pioneer Mary Parker…

Rules and Boundaries

By Dr. Jane BluesteinDecember 17, 2012May 9, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Motivating cooperation, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win authority Leave a comment

Effectively creating structure in your classroom When I started teaching, I had some reservations about being completely in charge and responsible for the rules, so I tried involving the students in this task. Part of my intention was an honest stab at building a positive, win-win classroom environment, wanting to acknowledge the students’ needs for…

10 Characteristics of Healthy Adult-Child Relationships

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 26, 2012May 20, 2022 Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Discipline, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Modeling positive behavior, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parenting, Parents, Problem solving, Recognition and reinforcement, Relationships, School climate, Social and Emotional Growth, Taking care of yourself, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Description of the characteristics Healthy, functional relationships between adults and children (including teacher-student relationships) are characterized by the following. Increasing the presence of these characteristics in your relationships is a great way to improve commitment, communications, cooperation, and consideration, and reduce stress and conflict as well! This list applies to parents and care-givers as well…

5 Characteristics of a Good Boundary- For Educators

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 9, 2012May 23, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Increasing Positivity, Leadership, Motivating cooperation, Relationships, Rules and Boundaries, Win-win authority Leave a comment

A positive, effective shift from rules and punishments Unlike rules (with punishments or negative consequences), boundaries* are characterized by the following: Clarity Boundaries are clear, specific and clearly communicated. They work best when you have the students’ attention, when they understands what you’re requesting, when the positive outcome of their cooperation is clear and when…

Presentation: Managing 21st Century Classrooms

By Dr. Jane BluesteinNovember 6, 2012May 23, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, Building responsibility, Counselors, Discipline, Educators, Emotionally safe schools, Intervening negative behavior, Motivating cooperation, Presentation, Presentation for educators, Problem solving, Recognition and reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Schools in Society, Win-win authority Leave a comment

How to Avoid Ineffective Classroom Management Practices! Presentation for educators by Dr. Jane Bluestein Of all the issues concerning teachers, discipline generally tops the list. All our preparation, enthusiasm and instructional expertise won’t get us much without the

Product: Article Reprints

By Dr. Jane BluesteinSeptember 25, 2012May 25, 2022 Avoiding power struggles, Avoiding power struggles with your kids, Beginning Teachers, Behavior Management, Behavior Management, bookstore, Bookstore, Building responsibility, Classroom management, Culture and Community, Discipline, Discipline, Download, Educators, Intervening negative behavior, Intervening negative behavior, Mentorship, Motivating cooperation, Motivating your kids, Parent-Teacher relationships, Parenting, Parenting, Parents, Problem solving, Recognition and Reinforcement, Recognition and reinforcement, Rules and Boundaries, Rules and Boundaries, Self-care and Inspiration, Social and Emotional Growth, Taking care of yourself, Teacher Appreciation, Teaching, Teaching, Win-win authority, Win-win parenting authority Leave a comment

Articles by Dr. Jane Bluestein This is a complete listing of the article reprints available on this site. The articles are listed in alphabetical order and cover a wide range of topics, primarily for parents and educators, with some subjects