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Note: The following list includes the resources cited in the book, The Perfection Deception. Contributions are identified as obtained through email, written correspondence, personal messages, posts or comments on social media, telephone conversations, or face-to-face interviews or conversations between March 2013 and June 2015. This list does not include individuals who requested anonymity or those whose valuable input I was unable to squeeze into the text. (All contributors’ names are included in the “acknowledgements” section of the book.) All of the links below were working at the time the manuscript was submitted. As I receive notice of broken links (no longer working), I will leave them here as original resources but disable their ability to link.

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“12 Step Groups,” last updated March 2015 on the Addictions and Recovery Web site.

“A Man May Do an Immense Deal of Good, If He Does Not Care Who Gets the Credit.” Posted on the Quote Investigator Web site.

“About AA Meetings.” Posted © 2015 on the Alcoholics Anonymous Australia website.

“Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents.” Interview by the Book Brigade with Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons posted June 23, 2014 on the Psychology Today Web site.

“Atelophobia.” Wikipedia entry (as posted on August 11, 2014).

“Attachment Parenting.” Post last modified Sept. 21, 2014 on the Wikipedia Web site.

“Australian Mom Lashes Back at the ‘Fit Mom.’ Good Morning America interview from Dec. 17, 2013, available on YouTube (published Dec. 26, 2013).

“Baby’s Reaction to Mom’s ‘Still Face’ Reveals Another Form of Abuse.” Video of Edward Tronick, director of Harvard University’s Child Development Unit. Posted Oct. 18, 2014 on the San Francisco Globe Web site.

“Bibliotherapy.” Definition from ODLIS, Online Dictionary for Library and Information Science, posted on the American Library Association Web site.

“Eating Disorder Statistics.” Posted 2015 on the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders Web site.

“Edu-Kinesthetics: Brain Gym.” Resources posted on the Brain Gym/Edu-Kinesthetics Web site.

“Facts and Figures (Suicide).” Posted on the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Web site (copyright 2015).

“Finding Therapy,” posted on the Mental Health America website.

“Glossary: Types of Massage and Bodywork Defined.” Posted 2003 on the Massage Therapy Web site.

“How Does EMDR Work?” posted on the EMDR International Association Web site.

“How Many TV and Radio Stations Are There?” Federal Communications Commission data posted May 16, 2011 on the Benton Foundation Web site.

“How to Stay Stressed.” Tips from a bookmark distributed by De Anza College, Cupertino, CA. Blog on Jane Bluestein’s Web site. Posted May 5, 2013,

“Human Ken Doll Goes Under the Knife for 113th Surgery.” Article on Inside Edition Web site. Posted April 29, 2013,

“I Want to Be Perfect. I Need to Be Perfect.” Reasons for needing to be perfect listed on a blog at

“If You’re Going Through Hell, Keep Going.” Posted on the Quote Investigator Web site.

“The Impostor Syndrome.” Posted on the Caltech Counseling Center Web site.

“Impostor Syndrome.” Posted on the Wikipedia Web site (last modified Jan. 11, 2015).

“Is Pride a Bad Thing?” Comments posted on the Debate Web site.

“Islamic Art.” Posted on the Wikipedia Web site, modified Aug. 28, 2014.

“Kaizen.” Wikipedia entry. Modified Jun. 19, 2013,

“List of Countries by the Number of Television Broadcast Stations.” Post last updated Aug. 6, 2014 on the Wikipedia Web site.

“Man Undergoes Extensive Plastic Surgery to Look Like Justin Bieber, Spends $100,000 in 5 Years.” Posted Oct. 19, 2013 on Huffington Post web site.

“Music Therapy in Response to Crisis and Trauma.” Posted on the American Music Therapy Association Web site.

“Newsweek Cover: The Myth of the Perfect Mother.” News release posted Feb. 13, 2005 on the PR Newswire Web site.

“Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence. Posted © 2015 on the Co-dependents Anonymous (CoDA) website.

“Perfectionism.” Article posted on the Out of the Fog Web site.

“Perfectionism.” Definition found on the Merriam-Webster Dictionary Web site.

“Perfectionism.” Posted in 2007 on the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign Counseling Center Web site,

“Perfectionism is a Bigger than Perceived Risk Factor in Suicide.” Posted on the York University Web site. (No date.) The online article refers to the following study: Flett, Gordon, Paul Hewitt, and Marnin Heisel. “The Destructiveness of Perfectionism Revisited: Implications for the Assessment of Suicide Risk and Prevention of Suicide.” American Psychological Association, Review of General Psychology (2014, Vol. 18, No. 3): 156–172

“Philosophy (Mario Martinez, Biocognitive Science).” Posted on the Biocognitive Science Institute Web site.

“Pressure for Perfection.” Transcript of the Dr. Phil show featuring Phil McGraw, Nov. 4, 2009.

“Pro-ana.” Definitions posted between 2003 and 2007 on the Urban Dictionary Web site,

“Procrastination/Time Management.” Posted on the University of Oregon Testing and Counseling Web site.

“Psychotherapy.” Post last modified Apr. 11, 2015 on the Wikipedia Web site.

“Reactive Attachment Disorder.” Post last modified Sept. 13, 2014 on the Wikipedia Web site.

“Sex Education: Where are Your Children Getting It?” Blog on Kidspot Parent Exchange Web site. Posted Oct. 9, 2013 at

“Stinking Thinking.” Definition posted on the Cambridge Dictionary Website.

“Stinking Thinking: When Negative Thinking Becomes Harmful.” Posted on the Alcohol Rehab Web site.

“Stress and Anxiety.” Posted Feb. 24, 2014 on the PubMed Health (U.S. National Library of Medicine, National Center for Biotechnology Information) Web site. (Reviewed by: Fred K. Berger, MD, Addiction and Forensic Psychiatrist, Scripps Memorial Hospital, La Jolla, CA. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Isla Ogilvie, PhD, and the A.D.A.M. Editorial team.)

“Success Is Going from Failure to Failure Without Losing Your Enthusiasm: Winston Churchill? Abraham Lincoln? Apocryphal? Anonymous?” Posted June 28, 2014 on the Quote Investigator Web site.

“Television in the United States.” Posted on the Wikipedia Web site, last updated Aug. 9, 2014.

“Types of Media.” Posted 2014 on the SparkNotes Web site.

“Wabi-sabi.” Definition and description on Wikipedia.

“Wabi-sabi.” Image posted on Reference for Woodworking Web site, 2011.

“Welcome to Workaholics Anonymous.” Posted © 2015 on the Workaholics Anonymous website.

“What is Brain Gym?” Information and resources posted on the Brain Gym International Web site.

“What is EFT? The Origins and Background,” posted 2015 on the Energy Therapy Centre Web site.

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Aamodt, Sandra. “Why Dieting Doesn’t Usually Work.” TED Talk filmed June 2013.

Acuff, Jon. “Three People You Need to Ignore Online.” Blog post on Michael Hyatt’s Web site. Posted, July 19, 2013,

Adams, Rebecca. “Male Model On Photoshop: ‘You Understand That This Isn’t Real… So Accept It.’”

Adderholdt, Miriam. In email and written correspondence through Nov. 2013.

Adderholdt, Miriam. “The Effects of Perfectionism Upon the Self Concepts of Undergraduate Women at the University of Georgia.” Doctoral dissertation, University of Georgia, Athens, 1984.

Adderholdt, Miriam. “Perfectionism and the Gifted Adolescent.” Chapter in Understanding the Gifted Adolescent: Educational, Developmental, and Multicultural Issues, edited by Marlene Bireley and Judy Genshaft. New York: Teacher College Press, 1991.

Adderholdt, Miriam. “Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good?” Handout packet to accompany presentation for North Carolina Council for Exceptional Children, Feb. 3, 2011.

Adderholdt, Miriam and Jan Goldberg. Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing, 1987.

Ahonen, Tomi. “Digital Divide: Global Household Penetration Rates for Technology.” Posted  Jan. 26, 2011 on the Bright Side of News Web site.

Al-Khattaab, Umar Ibn. Quote posted on The Authentic Base Web site.

Alexander, Jane . “Brain Gym: Simple Exercises for a Better Mind and Body.” Posted July 5, 2011 on the Brutally Frank Web site.

Alfano, Rudolf. In Facebook message, Apr. 4, 2015.

Alper, Mel. In email correspondence, Jan. 21, 2015.

Alper, Rhea. In email correspondence, Jan. 21, 2015.

Amin, Amit. “The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About: How Gratitude Can Change Your Life.” Posted on the Happier Human Web site.

Andrew. “Is Free Thinking a Mental Illness?” Posted Oct. 8, 2010 on the Off the Grid Web site.

Anonymous. “It All Began in Gym Class: Exercise Avoidance.” Posted Nov. 24, 2007 on the Overactive Fork Web site.

Antony, Martin M. and Richard P. Swinson. When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough: Strategies for Coping with Perfectionism. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2009.

Author Unknown, attributed to Mastin Kipp. Quote posted on Emily’s Quotes Web site.

Author unknown. Quote posted on the Get Organized Wizard Web page, Oct. 31, 2012.

Author Unknown. Quote from The Children’s Centre Polesworth posted Oct. 31, 2014 on Elizabeth Jarman for Families Facebook page.

Author unknown. “Twenty Dollars.” Story posted on the Inspiration Speak Web site.

Author unknown. Quote posted on Emily’s Quotes Web site.


BJB, “Aim for Success, Not Perfection,” posted Feb. 19, 2008 on the Between the Lines Blog.

Backhouse, Thomas. “Geometric Designs as ‘Art’.” Posted on the Geometric Design Web site.

Bahadur, Nina. “If ‘Real Men’ Posed in Underwear Ads.” Posted July 1, 2014 on the Huffington Post Web site.

Bahashwan, Hamidah Binte S. Abdullah. In email correspondence, Apr. 15, 2015.

Balogun K, Wale. In email correspondence, July, 2013.

Barry, Nathan. “Self-Doubt and Launch Stats.” Posted May 28, 2013 on Nathan Barry’s Web site.

Basco, Monica Ramirez. Never Good Enough: Freeing Yourself from the Chains of Perfectionism. New York: The Free Press, 1999.

Bates, Claire. “A Quarter of Children Under Ten Diet Because They Think They Are Overweight and Face Bullying Taunts, Shocking Survey Finds.” Posted Jan. 5, 2012 on the Daily Mail Web site.

Bauer, Beth. In email correspondence, Mar. 27, 2013.

Baughman, James L. “Television Comes to America, 1948-1957.” Posted on the Illinois Periodicals Online Web site (Northern Illinois University); previously published in Illinois History (March 1993): 42. Available:

Beck, Martha. “Heartbreak Academy: How to Make it Through.” Posted Feb. 17, 2013 on Martha Beck’s Web site. Includes Hemingway quote.

Beck, Melinda. “Inside the Minds of the Perfectionists.” Article on the Wall Street Journal Web site. Posted Oct. 29, 2012,

Beck, Melinda. “Silencing the Voice that Says You’re a Fraud.” Posted June 16, 2009 on the Wall Street Journal Web site.

Benally, Harry and Harold Carey. “Navajo Rug Guide.” Posted on the Navajo Arts Web site.

Benke, Karen. “Write About Anything.” Quoted in FamilyFun Magazine (Oct. 2013): 80.

Benson, Etienne. “The Many Faces of Perfectionism.”Posted November 2003 (Vol. 34, No. 10, print page 18) on the American Psychological Association Web site at

Berry, Susan W. Quote posted Feb. 20, 2015 on the Evolved Eating Facebook page.

Bielen, Peggy. In personal conversations and Bielen’s workshops from the 1990s.

Birnir, Adda. “The True Meaning of ‘Fail Harder.’” Posted July 19, 2013 on the Skillcrush Web site.

Blackson, Kute. “What Other People Think of You is None of Your Business.” Quote posted Aug. 26, 2013 on Kute Blackson’s Web page.

Bluestein, Jane. “The Challenge of Setting Boundaries.” Posted Aug. 10, 2012 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “Children at Risk.” Dr. Bluestein’s Book of Handouts. Albuquerque, NM: ISS Publications, 2014.

Bluestein, Jane. Creating Emotionally Safe Schools. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 2001.

Bluestein, Jane. “Dealing with Difficult Colleagues: What You Can Do About It.” Posted Aug. 11, 2012 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “Gratitude: More than Just an Attitude.” Posted Nov. 25, 2013 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “Guidelines for Reinforcing Cooperation.” Posted Nov. 19, 2012 at

Bluestein, Jane. “Making Someone Wrong: What Does That Really Mean?” Posted April 23, 2014 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “Non-Supportive Responses to Avoid.” Posted May 7, 2013 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Jane Bluestein, “Picking up the Pieces: Reclaiming our Essence.” Blog on Jane Bluestein’s Web site. Posted Dec. 23, 2012 at

Bluestein, Jane. Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1993.

Jane Bluestein, “Rules and Beliefs of Unhealthy Systems,” posted Nov. 26, 2012 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “Talking with… Grace Slick.” Families in Recovery (Vol. II, Issue 1, 1991): 15.

Bluestein, Jane. “What’s So Hard About Win-Win?” Posted Jan. 8, 2013 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site.

Bluestein, Jane. “What’s Wrong with I-Messages? Problems with a Popular Formula.” Posted Jan. 14, 2013 on Jane Bluestein’s Web site. Note: The original version of this article appeared in a 1991 issue of Families in Recovery magazine.

Bluestein, Jane. The Win-Win Classroom. Thousand Oaks, CA: Corwin Publishing, 2008.

Bluestein, Jane and Eric Katz. High School’s Not Forever. (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 2005).

Bluestein, Jane, Judy Lawrence, and SJ Sanchez. Magic, Miracles and Synchronicity: A Journal of Awareness and Gratitude. (Albuquerque, NM: I.S.S. Publications, 2009).

Bluestein, Steve. In post on Bluestein’s Facebook page, Nov. 15, 2014. (Referencing Bluestein’s book, It’s So Hard to Type With a Gun in My Mouth and his play, Rest in Pieces.)

Bolinger, Sherry. In Facebook message, Jan. 14, 2015.

Bostic, Jennifer. “Giving Up Perfect.” Blog on The Ordinary Chaos Web site. Posted Apr. 30, 2013,

Bowater, Donna. “Pornography is Replacing Sex Education.” Posted Dec. 16, 2011 on The Telegraph Web site.

Bowman, Peter. In Facebook comment, Feb. 7, 2015.

Bradshaw, John. Bradshaw On: The Family. (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1988). Also cited on Jane Bluestein’s Web site at

Braverman, Roberta. In telephone interview, July 25, 2013.

Brett, Regina. “Regina Brett’s 45 Life Lessons and 5 to Grow On.” Posted May 28, 2006 on the Cleveland Plain Dealer Web site.

Brilliant, Ashleigh. Quote posted on the Good Reads Web site.

Britten, Rhonda. Posted on the Inspiration Stories Web site.

Brosh, Andra. “5 Ways to Start Pleasing Yourself Before Pleasing Others,” on the Purpose Fairy Web site, posted August 12, 2013 at,

Brown, Brené. The Gifts of Imperfection. Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2010.

Brown, Brené. “Public Shaming is a Better Example of ‘If it Feels Good, Do it’ than Teen Pregnancy. Blog on Brené Brown’s Web site. Posted Mar. 20, 2013,

Brown, Elicia. “Good Enough.” Posted Spring 2012 on the Jewish Women Web site.

Brown, Tim. “Body Psychotherapy: A Short Guide to the Art and Science of Bodylistening.” Posted 2011 on the Body Works Web site.

Brumfitt, Taryn. “Dear Maria Kang… This is My Excuse (for not Having a Body Like Yours).” Posted Nov. 29, 2013 on the Body Image Movement Web site,

Buchanan, Jennifer. “Perfectionism.” Slide show created for a graduate class taught by Miriam Adderholdt.

Bullard, Shelly. “How to Stop Medicating with Men.” Posted Oct. 8, 2012 on the MindBodyGreen Web site,

Burns, David D. “The Perfectionist’s Script for Self-Defeat,” Psychology Today (Nov. 1980): 34-52

Burns, David. “The Top 10 Types of ‘Stinkin’ Thinkin’.’” Posted on the Psyche Central Website.

Burns, George. Quote posted on the Brainy Quotes Web site.

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Cameron, Julia. The Artist’s Way. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam Books, 1992.

Cameron, Julia. The Vein of Gold: A Journey to Your Creative Heart. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam Books, 1996.

Capelli, Glenn. “Leading Learning: The Art, Science, and Craft of Teaching.” Podcast posted Jan. 26, 2013 on Jane Bluestein’s web site.

Carlyle, Thomas. Quote posted on the Quoteworld website.

Carrey, Jim. “Jim Carrey’s Secret of Life Inspiring Message.” Published June 14, 2014 on YouTube Web site.

Carrey, Jim. “Transcript of Full Commencement Address by Jim Carrey.” Presented May 24, 2014 at the Maharishi University of Management and posted on their Web site.

Carter, Brynn. “A Problem with Threat.” Blog on the Parents Learning Group Web site. Posted Mar. 13, 2013. (Link no longer available. Content confirmed in correspondence, Jan. 11, 2015.)

Carter, Christine. “Perfectionism is a Disease.” Posted August 30, 2008 on the Greater Good Web site.

Casciano, Tiziana and Miguel Sousa Lobo. “Fool vs. Jerk: Whom Would You Hire?” Posted July 25, 2005 on the Harvard Business School Web site.

Challa, Krishna Kumari. “Science and Art: Perfection and Imperfection.” Posted on the Sci-Art Web site May 26, 2010.

Chapman, L. Kevin. “Control: The Red Flag of Family Anxiety.” Posted Dec. 24, 2011 on the Psychology Today Web site.

Chernoff, Marc. “8 Things Unhappy People Refuse to Admit.” Posted August 29, 2013 on the Marc and Angel Hack Life Web site,

Chernoff, Marc. “10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon.” Posted Jan. 29, 2014 on the Marc and Angel Hack Life Web site.

Cherry, Kendra. “Hierarchy of Needs.” Published on the About (Education) Web site.

Cherry, Kendra. “What is Attachment Theory?” Posted (c. 2014) on the About Web site (psychology).

Chong, Eric. In Facebook message, Jan. 20, 2015.

Chopra, Deepak. Fire in the Heart: A Spiritual Guide for Teens. New York: Simon and Schuster Books for Young Readers, 2004, 187.

Churchill, Winston. Quoted on the Think Exist Web site.

Clark, Barb. In Facebook message, Jan. 20, 2015.

Collins, Lynn. “Help! My Child’s Having a Feeling.” Families in Recovery (Vol. II, Issue 2, 1991): 8-9.

Conroy, David. Quote appeared Aug. 12, 2014 as a tweet on Don Tapscott’s account.

Constable, Kimanzi. In Facebook post, Mar. 31, 2015.

Coolidge, Calvin. Quoted on the Success Vibe Web site.

Cramer, Lisa. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.


Dahl, Melissa. “The Alarming New Research on Perfectionism.” Posted Sept. 30, 2014 on the New York Magazine Web site.

Daley, Haven and Hillel Italie. “Actor Apparently Committed Suicide.” Robin Williams quoted in article in Albuquerque Journal, Aug. 12, 2014, p. A4.

Davis, Jeanie Lerche. “Cutting and Self-Harm: Warning Signs and Treatment.” Posted on the WebMD Web site.

Davis, Ken. “A Disease That Can Stop You From Living.” Posted May 31, 2012 on Ken Davis’s Web site.

Davis, Rowena. “Labiaplasty Increase Blamed on Pornography.” Posted Feb. 26, 2011 on The Guardian Web site.

Davis, Stan. In Facebook comment, Apr. 6, 2015.

Dean, Kimbriel. “The Culture of Perfectionism: How it Affects You.” Blog on the Web site. Posted Apr. 26, 2013,

Dines, Gail. Quote posted on the Raw for Beauty Web site.

Ditzler, Jinny. “Appreciate Your Success.” Posted Nov. 30, 2009 on the Best Year Yet Web site.

Dobbs, David. “Rachel Maddow Gets Depressed.” Posted April 2, 2012 on Wired Website.

Dodinsky. Quote posted on the Good Reads Web site. This quote is from Dodinsky’s book, In the Garden of Thoughts (Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, 2013).

Dodinsky. Quote posted on the Raw for Beauty Web site.

Domar, Alice D. and Alice Lesch Kelly. Be Happy without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception. New York: Crown Publishers, 2008.

Dowden, Bradley. “Fallacies.” Posted on the Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy Web site.

Drake, Deborah. In Facebook message, Jan. 19, 2015.

Drapkin, Jennifer. “The Pitfalls of Perfectionism.” Posted Sept. 1, 2005 on the Psychology Today Web site.

Drinkwater, Willy. In email correspondence, Aug. 2014.

Dubey, Ashkay. Quote posted on the Good Reads Web site.

Dweck, Carol. “Caution—Praise Can Be Dangerous.” PDF on the American Federations of Teachers Web site (Spring 1999),

Dweck, Carol. “The Effect of Praise on Mindsets.” YouTube video published on Sept. 26, 2013 at

Dweck, Carol. “The Perils and Promises of Praise.” Article on the ASCD Web site (Oct. 2007, Vol. 65,  No. 2: Early Intervention at Every Age): 34-39,


eHarmony Staff. “What ‘All-or-Nothing’ Says About You.” Posted on the eHarmony Web site.

Edberg, Henrik. “Give Yourself a Break and Choose Percentages Instead of Perfection.” Translation posted on Dec. 16, 2013 at

Edberg, Henrik. “Let Go of Perfectionism: 7 Powerful Tips that will Help You.” Posted on The Positivity Blog,

Eglash, Joanne. “’Thinsporation’ Sites Promote Anorexia, Bulimia, and Other Eating Disorders.” Posted August 2, 2013 on the Examiner Web site at

Eisenberg, Larry. Quoted on the ThinkExist Web site. No date posted,

Emerson, Ralph Waldo. Quote posted on Goodreads Web site.

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Ferguson, Craig. Quoted from an interview on August 8, 2014 on his television program, The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson (CBS).

Ferreras, Ryan. Quoted on the Board of Wisdom Web site.

Folino, Joanna. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.

Ford, Henry. Quoted on the Brainy Quote Web site.

Robert Frost, quoted on the Big Think Web site.

FQXi Forum. Description of video by Xiangjun Shi posted Spring, 2014 on the Foundational Questions Institute Web site.

Fucarino, Chiara. “22 Things Happy People Do Differently,” Successify! Web site. Posted Oct. 31, 2012,

Fuller, Tammy. “Are You a Frustrated Perfectionist?” Posted Jan. 10, 2010 on the Craving Fitness Web site.


Garrett, Pamela Victoria. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.

Gavalas, Elaine. “Yoga May Help Relieve ADHD.” Updated Nov. 11, 2013 on the Huffington Post Web site.

Genzel, Bill. “Television.” Posted 2007 on the Wenzels Living History Farm Web site.

Geuss, Megan. “On Average, Americans Get 189 Cable TV Channels and Only Watch 17.” Posted May 6, 2014 on the ars technica Web site.

Gilbert, Elizabeth. “Beware of Tribal Shame.” Posted Apr. 10, 2015 on Elizabeth Gilbert’s Facebook page.

Gilbert, Elizabeth. Posted on Feb. 10, 2015 on Elizabeth Gilbert’s Facebook page; also posted Nov. 11, 2014 on Gilbert’s Web site.

Gilman, Priscilla. “In Praise of Imperfection.” (May 2014): 128.

Ginn, Virginia Duran. In email correspondence, Mar. 21, 2013.

Glassman, Charles F. “6 Ways to Find a Soulmate.” Blog posted Jan. 8, 2015 on Charles Glassman’s Web site.

Goins, Jeff. “Overcoming Perfectionism: Stop Going Around in Circles.” Posted on Jeff Goins’s Web site (copyright 2014).

Goleman, Daniel. “Higher Suicide Risk for Perfectionists.” Posted May 1, 1996 on The New York Times Web site.

Graham, Linda. “The Neuroscience of Attachment.” Posted (c. 2014) on Linda Graham’s Web site. (First presented as a Clinical Conversation at the Community Institute for Psychotherapy, Fall 2008.)

Greenspon, Thomas. “‘Healthy Perfectionism’ is an Oxymoron,” Journal of Secondary Gifted Education, Prufrock Press (Vol. 11, No. 4): 197-208. Posted on the Davidson Institute Web site. No date,

Gregoire, Carolyn. “14 Signs Your Perfectionism Has Gotten Out of Control.” Updated Nov. 25, 2013 on the Huffington Post Web site.

Grover, Susannah. Excerpted and condensed from a more elaborate description of the process detailed in email correspondences sent through Mar. 2, 2015.

Gutman, Laura. In email correspondence, Mar. 8, 2015.


Haker, Kelly Ann. “The Ultimate Price for Perfection: The Relationship Between Suicidal Ideation and Perfectionism.” Posted Oct. 10, 2008 on the Vanderbilt University Web site.

Hall, Tabitha. In Facebook comment, Apr. 6, 2015.

Hanson, Erin. Poem posted on The Poetic Underground Web site.

Hatch, Betty. In email correspondences, Mar. 23, 2013. (Past President of the National Association for Self-Esteem.)

Hayes, Kathleen. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.

Hebeneck, Debby. “Pornography is No Substitute for Sex Ed.” Posted Nov. 11, 2012 on The New York Times Web site.

Heck, Judy. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.

Heitler, Susan. “How Contempt Destroys Relationships.” Posted Mar. 4, 2013 on the Psychology Today Web site.

Henig, Robin Marantz. “Your Adult Sibling May be the Secret to a Long, Happy Life.” Posted Nov. 27, 2014 on the NPR Web site.

Hepola, Sarah. Interview with Anne Lamott: “We Stuffed Scary Feelings Down and They Made Us Insane.” Posted Nov. 3, 2014 on the Salon Web site.

Herr, Norman. “Television and Health.” Television statistics posted (2007 copyright) on The Sourcebook for Teaching Science Web site.

Hewitt, Paul. Perfectionism and Psychopathology Lab Web site.

Hill, Amelia. “Today’s Girls Prefer to Look Sexy Rather than Be Clever.” Posted Dec. 8, 2007 on The Guardian Web site.

Hinckley, David. “Americans Spend 34 Hours a Week Watching TV, According to Nielsen Numbers.” Posted Sept. 19, 2012 on the Daily News Web site.

Hinkelman, Lisa. Seminar presentation and notes, “What’s Going on For Girls and How Can We Help Them?” presented Jan. 10, 2015 at the Corwin Author Consultant Conference, Thousand Oaks, CA.

Holcombe, Beti Wyn. In email correspondence, Dec. 2, 2013.

Holden, Robert. Quote posted on Spiritual Quotes to Live By Web site,

Horowitz, Shel. “Emotional Intelligence: How to Stop Amygdala Hijackings.” Posted 2014 on the UMassAmherst Web site.

Huffington, Christina. “Subversion, Clothing Brand, Awesomely Redefines ‘Dress for Your Shape’ on Facebook.” Blog on Huffington Post Web site. Posted April 22, 2013,

Huitt, William G. “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.” Published 2007 on the Educational Psychology Interactive Web site.

Hsieh, Betina. In Facebook message, Jan. 19, 2015.


Illagan, Victor Allan Caraos. In email correspondence, Oct. 3, 2014.

Ita, Mark. In Facebook comment, Apr. 2015.

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Jaffe, Eric. “Why Wait? The Science Behind Procrastination.” Article appearing in The Observer (Vol.26, No.4 April, 2013), posted on the Association for Psychological Science Web site.

Jagtiani, Lata. “The Trap of Perfectionism.” Posted June 26, 2002 on the Boloji Web site.

Jerose (Jerusalem P. Fermasis). Quote posted on Tumblr Web site.

Jobs, Steve. Quote posted July 19, 2014 on the Shift of the Ages Facebook page.

Jordan, Tim. “The Miley Cyrus Culture.” Posted August 29, 2013 on Tim Jordan’s Web site,

Jung, Carl. Quoted on The Quotations Page Web site.


KB (kbcreativelab). “Porn Sex vs. Real Sex: The Differences Explained with Food.” YouTube video posted Jul. 29, 2013,

Kahn, Robin Amos. “The Only Way Out is Through.” Posted Oct. 19, 2012 on the Huffington Post Web site.

Kamb, Steve. “Two Words that Will Level Up Your Life.” Posted Feb. 13, 2014 on the Nerdfitness Web site,

Kane, Christine. “The Recovering Perfectionist’s Guide to Productivity and Success.” Posted 2011 on the Consistently Great Web site,

Katz, Eric. In email correspondence, Mar. 2, 2015.

Kaufeldt, Martha. In Facebook message, Apr. 6, 2015.

Kilbourne, Jean. “Killing Us Softly 4: Advertising’s Image of Women.” Video on the Upworthy Web site.

King, June. “Effects of Yoga on Children with Behavioural Problems.” Posted June 8, 2008 on the Yoga Magazine Web site.

Klass, Perri. “Are You Overprotecting Your Child?” Posted (copyright 2014) on the Parenting Web site.

Klebanoff, Susan. In telephone interview, Nov. 23, 2014.

Kohl, Hannah. In Facebook post, Feb. 14, 2015.

Kohl, Hannah. “Hannah Kohl Papercuts.” Posted 2014 on A Thousand Tiny Snips Web site.

Koppelkam, Sarah. “How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Body.” Posted July 30, 2013 on the Huffington Post Web site,

Korth, Robin. “My ‘Naked’ Truth.” Posted July 12, 2014 on The Huffington Post Web site,

Kraus, Michael W. “The Power to Be Me.” Article on Psychology Today Web site. Posted Jan. 26, 2012 in “Under the Influence,”

Krieger, Ellie. “Stop Using These Words When You Talk About Food.” Published May 25, 2015 in the Albuquerque Journal, C2.

Kruse, Kevin. “Zig Ziglar: 10 Quotes That Can Change Your Life.” Posted Nov. 28, 2012 on the Forbes Web site.

Kutner, Lawrence M. “Living in Deep Fear of an A-Minus,” The Salisbury Post (Feb. 12, 1989): 30.


Lamott, Anne. Excerpt from Facebook post, May 12, 2014.

Lamott, Anne. Excerpt from Facebook post, Apr. 8, 2015.

Landry, Alysa. “Navajo Weaver Shares Story with Authentic Rugs.” Article on the Native American Times Web site. Posted Mar. 16, 2009,

LaPorte, Danielle. Quote posted on the Good Reads Web site.

Larson, Alina. “Are You a Procrastinator?” Posted on the Guideposts Web site.

Leman, Kevin. The Birth Order Book. Ada, MI: Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, 2009.

Leman, Kevin. Why Your Best is Good Enough. (Grand Rapids, MI: Revell Books, a division of Baker Publishing Group, 2010). Available:

Lennox, Annie. Posted March 7, 2015 on the BBC 4 Facebook page.

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  1. Great! Thank you for this! I enjoyed reading some of them and will visit the other links too if I have time.

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