Do’s and Don’ts of Effective Parenting
(25th Anniversary Edition)

by Dr. Jane Bluestein

Make the most of your relationship with your children. This book offers practical tips for creating a win-win authority relationship in an atmosphere of love, caring, and mutual respect.

Includes thousands of simple, effective, kid-tested ideas to help you build character, avoid power struggles, increase school success, motivate cooperation, reduce conflict, solve problems, and create safe, loving relationships with children of all ages! Adapts to your own needs, goals, and values to minimize conflict and maximize cooperation. This book will help build responsibility, self-management, and consideration for others while offering ways to take care of yourself.

Over 100 lists including:

• 13 ways to model respect
• 8 ways to model and teach gratitude
• 13 ways to build decision-making skills
• 14 ways to deal with monsters in the closet
• 9 ways to build responsibility, independence & self-management
• 11 ways to encourage cooperation with chores
• 11 ways to avoid problems with money or buying
• 10 ways to avoid getting hooked by your child’s misbehavior
• 8 ways to deal with criticism about your parenting—and much, much more!

Great ideas collected from surveys and interviews with hundreds of parents, applicable for all parents of children of all ages. A great resource for counseling centers, parent libraries, and classroom newsletters.

Winner, Parents’ Choice Award

“. . .a must-read, with enough variety, options and suggestions to help all of us parents living in this time of chaos and confusion.”
—Barbara Coloroso, author, Kids are Worth It!

Just glancing through a few pages of this book gave me a few ideas that could make my life a little easier. I think it is well worth the small price.
—Reader (Amazon review)

If you’re looking for an easy to read book that covers a wide realm of family issues, this is it. It provides easy to follow lists that focus on positive feedback that will minimize conflict and maximize cooperation in the family. The book is a very easy read, and you can pick up tips to improve your relationship with the kids…
—Reader (Amazon review)

…Overall, I found this to be an excellent book to read.
—Reader (Amazon review)

Effective with kids of all ages. Available in paperback ($13.99) and Kindle editions ($9.99).

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See our growing collection of Dr. Bluestein’s Original Reprint Series.

Read excerpts from The Parent’s Little Book of Lists:

9 Things to Remember About Setting Boundaries with Your Children
11 Ways to Build Irresponsibility in Your Children
12 Ways to be an Effective Mentor
10 Dangers of Encouraging Obedience and People-Pleasing
6 Reasons to Not Ask “Why”

This book is now available in Spanish. Click here for details about Listas Para Padres.

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