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An Alternative to Advice Giving

Asking questions to guide problem solving The questions that follow are provided to help with the mechanics of mastering the technique of “asking—not telling,” an effective alternative to giving kids advice that encourages independence and problem-solving competence. The questions are (more…)

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How to Stay Stressed

Does this sound familiar? The following material came from a bookmark distributed by De Anza College: Although the De Anza Health Office long been an advocate of stress management, stress, tension, and burnout are still common complaints of students, faculty, and staff alike. On account of this, we have come to the following conclusion: You […]

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The Myth of the Self-Esteem “Myth”

What self-esteem is, and is not On this page you will find a comparison between the characteristics of someone with a healthy, functional sense of self-worth vs. the characteristics of someone whose sense of worth, value, esteem, and deservingness is weak or low. See below for additional information. Self-esteem clearly goes beyond simply “feeling good […]

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Friendships

Learning to tell the difference Think about someone in your life who leaves an open space for you to be yourself. No one is more valuable. I would rather have a pillar of trust in my life than a pillar of strength. —Deepak Chopra Do you have friends who leave you feeling happy and uplifted? […]

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Perfectionism with Dr. Miriam Adderholdt

What’s Bad About Being Too Good? Episode Summary: In a culture that praises and rewards excellence and accomplishment, how can we avoid crossing the line to a dangerous desire for perfection? Dr. Jane Bluestein talks with Dr. Miriam Adderholdt about what perfectionism is, how it can negatively affect our social and emotional health, and the difference […]

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Survey: Is Your School an Emotionally Safe Place?

Assessing Climate in Individual Classrooms and Schools This survey lists a number of practices which characterize a school with an emotionally safe climate. It has been included on this site to help you evaluate your school’s goals, policies and intentions, as well as the degree to which each exists in actual practice. The list is […]

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Prefectionism vs. Healthy Pursuit of Excellence

Explaining the difference The following information was excerpted from Perfectionism: What’s Bad About Being Too Good? by Dr. Miriam Renée Adderholdt and reprinted with her permission. Perfectionists reach for impossible goals. Pursuers of Excellence enjoy meeting high standards that are within reach. Perfectionists value themselves by what they do. Pursuers of Excellence value themselves by who they are. Perfectionists […]

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The Power of Discouragement

The impact of feedback on achievement Years ago working in Slovenia, I met an art teacher, Andrej Grošelj, who over the years, stayed in touch and became a friend until his recent and sudden death. With the help of Google’s Language Tools, I was able to translate email messages he occasionally sent in his native tongue. One […]

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Water and the Body

Benefits of water to for learning, behavior, and health Hydration is critical to learning and performance. If you coach a sport or have children who are on teams or compete in sports, you would probably never send your kids onto the field, court, or track, or even into the pool without being adequately hydrated. Coaches […]

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15 Ways to Live Optimistically

Increasing positivity, hope, and optimism in your life and the lives of your loved ones Some of us are wired to be optimistic and cheerful, even in the face of unrelenting challenges and obstacles. Others have to make a conscious effort to focus the positive. Wherever you are on this continuum, here are a few […]

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8 Ways to Live in Gratitude

Tips for making your life more rich and positive. • Enjoy the beauty, richness, love, and opportunities that already exist in your life. • Express appreciation to people who do or give nice things to you. (Even if you receive a gift you don’t particularly like, you can still acknowledge the positive qualities of the […]

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The Dignity Stance

Tips for responding to meanness or bullying by Naomi Drew Note from Jane Bluestein: Ms. Drew recommends teaching kids the following strategies. I think this information would also be valuable for adults in a similar situation. (more…)

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You Belong

You Belong Poem by Naomi Drew Come join in, come join in, no matter your background or color of skin. You are of value for all that you are, your special uniqueness will carry you far. It’s not about the way you look, your size, or weight, or height. What matters most is what’s inside, […]

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Bullying Checklist for Kids

Check Your Behavior Take this self-test to find out if you’re doing anything that’s considered to be bullying. Do you do any of the following on a regular basis? –  Purposely try to make another person feel bad. –  Make fun of people to hurt or embarrass them. –  Engage in lots of name-calling. – […]

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No Kidding About Bullying with Naomi Drew

A constructive approach to a serious subject Episode Summary: What bullying looks like and the impact it has on children. Dr. Jane Bluestein talks with Naomi Drew about bullying words and actions, which could include teasing, making fun of someone, name calling, giving someone dirty looks or rolling eyes, excluding someone, or any physical event meant to […]

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New Introduction to Magic, Miracles and Synchronicity

A Journal of Gratitude and Awareness by Dr. Jane Bluestein, Judy Lawrence, M.S.Ed. & SJ Sanchez, M.P.A. An Introduction to the Second Edition (excerpt): Before there was a book, there was an idea, and the original title for this idea was Magic, Miracles & Synchronicity. However, as we began to develop the content, our publisher targeted the chapter […]

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Book: Magic, Miracles and Synchronicity

A Journal of Gratitude and Awareness by Dr. Jane Bluestein, Judy Lawrence, M.S.Ed. & SJ Sanchez, M.P.A. This life-affirming book will inspire you to reflect upon and document your feelings of gratitude and appreciation for the gifts of intuitive insights, “coincidences,” beauty, growth, accomplishment, help and support, and day-to-day miracles that occur in (more…)

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