Archive | Overcoming obstacles

Does Your Confidence Propel or Sabotage You?

How confidence affects our happiness There are two different kinds of confidence a person may embrace. One comes from a strong, quiet strength and the second type comes from a fear-based confidence. Quiet confidence is an inner strength that when attained doesn’t have to be talked about or placed on a résumé; it shows in a […]

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Starting Fresh

Beginning a new year. Or a new day. Note: I started this post on Feb. 8, 2014 and, like many things I started during the time I was working on the perfectionism book, lost track of it before I finished. I think the idea of coming back more than 2 years later to complete this […]

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Presentation: The Perfection Deception

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging our relationships, making us sick, and holding our happiness hostage Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Perfectionism may sound like a good thing, but it’s entirely different from the more realistic and achievable healthy pursuit of excellence. Working diligently toward improvement, learning, and growth is also far less destructive (and […]

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The Myth of the Self-Esteem “Myth”

What self-esteem is, and is not On this page you will find a comparison between the characteristics of someone with a healthy, functional sense of self-worth vs. the characteristics of someone whose sense of worth, value, esteem, and deservingness is weak or low. See below for additional information. Self-esteem clearly goes beyond simply “feeling good […]

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The Power of Discouragement

The impact of feedback on achievement Years ago working in Slovenia, I met an art teacher, Andrej Grošelj, who over the years, stayed in touch and became a friend until his recent and sudden death. With the help of Google’s Language Tools, I was able to translate email messages he occasionally sent in his native tongue. One […]

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Presentation: Boundaries 101

From Basic to Black-Belt Self-Care Techniques Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Do you have a tendency to say yes when you want to say no? Is follow-through a challenge? Do you find yourself asking for excuses or giving warnings? Do you sometimes feel taken for granted? If you do, you are not alone.  (more…)

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The Adversity Connection with Dan Deigan

Building resiliency and persistence Episode Summary: Find the hidden gifts in obstacles and challenges. Dr. Jane Bluestein talks with Dan Deigan, founder of the Little Conversations Today Web site, to discuss the concepts of failure and success, offering practical suggestions (more…)

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