Archive | Self-care and Inspiration

Presentation: The Perfection Deception

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging our relationships, making us sick, and holding our happiness hostage Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Perfectionism may sound like a good thing, but it’s entirely different from the more realistic and achievable healthy pursuit of excellence. Working diligently toward improvement, learning, and growth is also far less destructive (and […]

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Book: The Perfection Deception

Why trying to be perfect is sabotaging your relationships, making you sick, and holding your happiness hostage. Note: This page represents the availability of this book after Aug. 15, 2015. To pre-order this book at a special price, click here. What’s wrong with perfectionism? Everything! Most people mistakenly confuse perfectionism with a healthy striving for excellence—but there […]

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Bibliography for The Perfection Deception

Resources for Bluestein Perfectionism Book Note: The following list includes the resources cited in the book, The Perfection Deception. Contributions are identified as obtained through email, written correspondence, personal messages, posts or comments on social media, telephone conversations, or face-to-face interviews or conversations between March 2013 and June 2015. This list does not include individuals […]

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I-Messages: The Handout

More information about a destructive communication pattern This handout was developed to accompany a free online article, “What’s Wrong with ‘I-Messages’?” I first wrote about the problems with using this formula to try to get people to change their behavior in 1991. Evidence based on outcomes of using this formula has only strengthened my opinion. There are […]

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Why I Teach

Looking back at a tough first year If you had asked me back in the beginning to tell you why I teach, I don’t know how I might have answered. It wasn’t the money— back in my days as a teaching intern [in 1973], I was bringing home a mere $318 a month, which wasn’t […]

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6 Ways to Take More Time for Yourself

Making yourself a priority • When your children are young, start building their independence so they learn to to give you some space. Start by spending one minute in a separate room or part of the house—or less if you have to. Add a little more time each day until you work up to what feels […]

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Preventing Bullying in the Digital Age

Understanding and managing cyberspace aggression Guest blogger Amy Williams shares what to watch for and how to prevent meanness in the digital age. The ripple effect of bullying can be felt across all lanes of life. Similar to raging drivers on the road, aggressive Internet users can create a threatening environment for the people around them. […]

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Respect, Reflection, and Resources

Tips to Improve Teacher Efficacy Guest blogger, Dr. Jared Scherz, offers some ideas for teachers to enhance their professional growth and their experience as a professional educator. Respect Teachers need to be treated like professionals, offered meaningful feedback but allowed and encouraged to provide input of their own. If adjustments are needed, they are informed […]

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6 Manières de Prendre plus de Temps pour Vous-même

Par Jane Bluestein Ph.D. • Quand vos enfants sont encore petits, commencez à renforcer leur indépendance pour qu’ils apprennent à vous donner de l’espace. Commencer par passer une minute dans une pièce séparée—ou moins si nécessaire. Ajoutez un peu plus de temps chaque jour, jusqu’à ce que vous sentiez que vous avez atteint une pause […]

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36 Choses que Vous Pouvez Faire Pour Vous Sentir Bien

Par Jane Bluestein Ph.D. • Faites quelque chose que vous avez longtemps retardé. • Essayez une nouvelle recette ou un nouveau restaurant. • Ecrivez une lettre à quelqu’un de spécial. • Réparez quelque chose qui a été cassé. • Dites une blague à quelqu’un. • Offrez-vous un soin de visage, une manucure ou un massage (ou tous les trois!) • Promenez-vous pour […]

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14 Façons d’être un Parent Plus Conscient

Par Jane Bluestein Ph.D. • Identifiez vos buts concernant l’éducation de votre enfant. Pensez au type de relation que vous cherchez à établir, et à ce que vous pouvez faire pour l’obtenir. Regardez les objectifs à long et à court-terme. • Faites-vous un petit panneau qui dit : « Ma relation avec mon enfant (ou mes enfants) est importante. […]

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“Making Someone Wrong”

What does that really mean? It was just a little editorial comment in the column of the manuscript for my last book. I was explaining the power of conditional access to positive consequences, noting that it was not necessary to “make [kids] wrong or point out the error of their ways when they blow it” […]

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The Gift of Service: Certificate

Download page for Service Certificates Click here to download a page with two copies of a certificate you can duplicate to offer the gift of your service to someone in your life. This page corresponds to Chapter 4, “The Pleasures of Service,” in Magic, Miracles and Synchronicity by Jane Bluestein, Judy Lawrence, and S.J. Sanchez. See below […]

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Angels in Disguise: Certificate

Download page for Angel Certificates Click here to download a page with two copies of a certificate you can duplicate to recognize and acknowledge the Angels in Disguise who enrich your life. These “angels” could be family and friends, or they could be helpers, service people, or total strangers who add to your life with […]

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Gratitude: More than Just an Attitude

A good habit to develop Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. —Melody Beattie As another Thanksgiving approaches, I am working on to convert the hard copy of our book, Magic, Miracles and Synchronicity: A Journal of Gratitude and Awareness, to an eBook and PDF version. Yes, it […]

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Taking a Step Back

…Before taking the next step forward A new friend just asked if she could interview me on the topic of guilt-free self-care. I eagerly agreed but assured her that I knew very little about either. To be fair, I’m much better about the guilt part, but I’ve noticed a few lapses in my efforts at […]

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Creating Kindness

Finding a positive outlet for outrage and pain It’s the day after the verdict in the Trayvon Martin case and I’m seeing pain, heartbreak, and outrage in post after post on Facebook. I can appreciate each one of these comments, and frankly think they say a great deal about my Facebook friends. Of course I’m […]

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