Recognition and Reinforcement

Product: “Pads” on the Back

August 25, 2014 Behavior Management

Like Getting a Hug on Paper by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Dr. Lynn Collins Now available as Post-It® Notes! After selling the last of thousands of the original product, we decided to reprint these “Pads,” this time as a set of sticky notes. The new pads are now available in 5 packs of 50 sheets, and […]

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Presentation: Parents in a Pressure Cooker

July 17, 2014 Avoiding power struggles with your kids

A comprehensive and positive approach for parents and caregivers Dozens of practical, positive, and effective strategies to help parents build kids’ cooperation, responsibility, and self-management in a caring, mutually-respectful, win-win environment. This program was designed as a half-day, full-day, or multi-day training to combine the discipline issues and power dynamics addressed in “You Can’t Make Me!”, with […]

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Picking up the Pieces

December 23, 2012 Blog

Reclaiming our essence “I can never read your writing.” “That was awful. Maybe you should leave the athletics to your sister.” “I can’t tell what this drawing is supposed to be.” “You’ll never be any good at…” Do any of these sound familiar? I know very few adults who grew up without at least some […]

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The Power of Discouragement

December 20, 2012 Avoiding burnout

The impact of feedback on achievement Years ago working in Slovenia, I met an art teacher, Andrej Grošelj, who over the years, stayed in touch and became a friend until his recent and sudden death. With the help of Google’s Language Tools, I was able to translate email messages he occasionally sent in his native tongue. One […]

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Guidelines for Reinforcing Cooperation

November 19, 2012 Parents

Practical tips for parents and caregivers • Recognizing positive behaviors increase the likelihood that these behaviors will continue or reoccur. • Use positive reinforcement— verbal or non-verbal (interactive, token, or activity)— to

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Spanish “Pads” on the Back™ Template

October 25, 2012 Counselors

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Spanish by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Click here to […]

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Italian “Pads” on the Back™ Template

October 24, 2012 Counselors

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in Italian by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Click here to […]

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English “Pads” on the Back™ Template

October 24, 2012 Counselors

Download the “Pads” on the Back™ Template in English by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. These are two of the eight different messages on the PDF. By clicking on the link below you agree to keep the copyright notice on this page and to distribute or share these materials for free. Click here to […]

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“Pads” on the Back Templates

October 23, 2012 Counselors

A world of positivitity! 43 FREE “Pads” on the Back™ Templates in 41 world languages (so far) by Dr. Jane Bluestein & Lynn Collins, Ph.D. Download for FREE! (Click here to go directly to the languages for your free downloads.) The same 8 sentence starters in our original pre-printed “Pads” on the Back are now available in […]

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Product: Article Reprints

September 25, 2012 Avoiding power struggles

Articles by Dr. Jane Bluestein This is a complete listing of the article reprints available on this site. The articles are listed in alphabetical order and cover a wide range of topics, primarily for parents and educators, with some subjects

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Video: Win-Win Parenting

September 23, 2012 Avoiding power struggles with your kids

Four video presentation on one DVD featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Win-win authority dynamics applied to relationships between parents and children. Includes practical strategies and tips for avoiding conflict, engaging cooperative behavior, building responsibility, setting boundaries and following through, and supporting children’s emotional needs. Appropriate for parents, grandparents, foster parents, and

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Audio: ParentTapes

September 19, 2012 Audio products

Two audio CDs or mp3 audio files featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Hear Dr. Bluestein in a live— and very lively— presentation for more than 200 parents of kids of all ages and stages. These two CDs provide nearly 2 hours’ worth of simple, practical ideas for building relationships with your kids. This entertaining and dynamic […]

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Presentation: Parents, Teens and Boundaries

August 13, 2012 Avoiding power struggles

How to Draw the Line Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein Ah, the Terrific Teens! What a perfect time to refine— or redefine— your relationship with your child!

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Parenting Teens

August 12, 2012 Avoiding power struggles

How to Draw the Line Counselors know that when parents set clear boundaries, they take care of their teens and themselves. 

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The Challenge of Setting Boundaries

August 10, 2012 Avoiding power struggles

A Win-Win Alternative to an Authoritarian or Permissive Approach Few of us are especially adept at setting boundaries with anyone, and for good reason. Let’s back up a bit. When you were growing up, were you told that other people’s needs were more important than yours? Were you rewarded for self-sacrificing and people-pleasing? Were you […]

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