Archive | Building responsibility

“Making Someone Wrong”

What does that really mean? It was just a little editorial comment in the column of the manuscript for my last book. I was explaining the power of conditional access to positive consequences, noting that it was not necessary to “make [kids] wrong or point out the error of their ways when they blow it” […]

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Obedient vs. Cooperative Behavior

There is a difference! As you can imagine, my perceptions and ideas about children’s behavior have evolved over the years, including shifts in the vocabulary and conceptual framework I use in my writing and seminars. These changes have been especially evident in relation to the concepts I explore in this post. Because it’s so easy […]

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Presentation: Bouncing Back: Resiliency

Building Resiliency and Persistence in Our Students Presentation by Dr. Jane Bluestein How often do we see students struggling with a new challenge and just give up? Some don’t even try, and can invent all sorts of excuses— sometimes with their parents’ support— to avoid the risk we all need to take when we’re learning […]

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An Alternative to Advice Giving

Asking questions to guide problem solving The questions that follow are provided to help with the mechanics of mastering the technique of “asking—not telling,” an effective alternative to giving kids advice that encourages independence and problem-solving competence. The questions are (more…)

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“Magic” Sentences for Effective Communication

Positive language for avoiding conflict, negotiating agreements, and taking care of yourself “Magic Sentences” are key phrases that offer practical ways to use specific language to prevent, minimize, or de-escalate conflicts with others. Different sentences will be useful in different situations. These examples represent a win-win approach to relationships, and while they were originally developed for […]

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10 Dangers of Encouraging Obedience and People-Pleasing

It’s not as desirable as it sounds! Parents can’t choose the mates of their children or the behavior of their children. You actually can’t choose anything for your children without disempowering them. —Abraham* Most of the parents and teachers with whom I work come to my presentations (especially ones like “You Can’t Make Me!” and […]

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What’s so Hard About Win-Win?

Getting past old win-lose traditions This article was written for Educational Leadership magazine. A similar version appeared in the September 2011 edition of that magazine. Talk about safe, respectful schools and at some point, the term win-win is bound to come up. First coined in the 1920s by human relations and management pioneer Mary Parker […]

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Rules and Boundaries

Effectively creating structure in your classroom When I started teaching, I had some reservations about being completely in charge and responsible for the rules, so I tried involving the students in this task. Part of my intention was an honest stab at building a positive, win-win classroom environment, wanting to acknowledge the students’ needs for […]

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Presentation: Character Counts

Building Relationships that Build Character Presentation for educators or parents by Dr. Jane Bluestein It’s one thing to expect or demand certain desirable character traits in kids—and another to create an environment in which these behaviors are likely to emerge! (more…)

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Presentation: 21st Century Discipline

Responding to the Needs of Today’s Students Presentation for educators by Dr. Jane Bluestein Of all the issues concerning teachers, discipline generally tops the list. All our preparation, enthusiasm and instructional expertise won’t get us much without the (more…)

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Product: Article Reprints

Articles by Dr. Jane Bluestein This is a complete listing of the article reprints available on this site. The articles are listed in alphabetical order and cover a wide range of topics, primarily for parents and educators, with some subjects (more…)

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Video: Responsibility, Respect, and Relationships

Creating Emotionally Safe Schools Complete program on DVD featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Get the Works! The complete staff development video package includes 15 self-contained, 30-minute inservice workshops featuring units that are engaging, entertaining, and geared toward action— not theory! (more…)

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Video: Responsibility and Classroom Discipline

Video presentations on 6 DVDs featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Create win-win authority relationships! Explore practical and effective ways to teach students responsible behavior with boundaries instead of rules, and with positive outcomes rather than penalties. Discover how to construct and utilize win-win discipline strategies to encourage cooperation, responsibility and self-management, to resolve and prevent problems, […]

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Video: Connecting with Students, Connecting with Parents

Two video presentation on one DVD featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Dr. Bluestein joins Dr. William Glasser & Dr. Hanoch McCarty in an exploration of the importance of positive student-teacher relationships and how those relationships can impact achievement. The second video examines the important role parents can play in supporting teachers’ efforts to (more…)

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Video: Discipline and Achievement

Two video presentation on one DVDs featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein A humorous and thought-provoking presentation that examines how a teacher’s approach to discipline can affect learning. Includes coverage of the characteristics and use of effective boundaries to build cooperation and emotional safety and meet both teacher’s and students’ needs. Appropriate for (more…)

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Video: Creating Emotionally Safe Schools

Video presentations on 3 DVDs featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein Emotional safety is not only about guns and violence. It is also about learning styles, social interactions, discipline and the roles schools assume in our society and economy. In these three videos, Dr. Bluestein presents ways in which teachers can create a caring and supportive environment […]

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Audio: TeacherTapes mp3 download

Being a Successful Teacher MP3 file or Audio cassette featuring Dr. Jane Bluestein A lively and very funny presentation taped in front of 1200 teachers in a keynote presentation that addresses the magic ingredients of successful teaching, from instruction and management to relationships with students, parents, administrators, and colleagues. Tons of great ideas for minimizing […]

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